boyfriend situation-new development, im so hurt.

[SizzleSquid]

he went mad at me last night, said i don't listen to him, because i took a call in his flat, and that im childish (because i like going out, having fun, doing stuff instead of being boring and sitting on the couch) he has only allowed me to see him once a week for 7 years on the same night and time, im not allowed to wear a skirt (even though its summer) even a long skirt, im not allowed to make or recieve calls from his house just to update.

He made me cry so much last night i thought i was going too collapse, after 7 years you would cry wouldn't you? Guess what? He told me to get it together! and to be quiet. Im so upset. He said he'd give me one more chance based that i listen to him, dont use phone, wear skirt and give good conversation. Im so upset. I really love him, but i feel hard done by.

[Champagne]

Well I�m sure you�re not stupid, sizzle, and you obviously love the man otherwise you would have left him by now. But he is taking you for granted. Do you really think that�s the best you deserve?

[Veggibear]

If you only see him one day a week, what do you do for the rest of the week?

[boobesque]

i am sorry but how you put up with a bully like that for 7 years i will never know, girl you need to get out there, put on a skirt and meet a nice man, they do exsist! but please, for your own sanity you need to leave him!

[Octavius]

Sizzle, there is nothing wrong or scarey about being single, this person is wasting the best years of your life. Take a break from this relationship and enjoy your own life, when you are ready you will find someone who will appreciate everything that you are and will be.

Good luck.

[rugeleyboy]

sizzlesquid............ i have not read all of this thread but i want to say my two pence worth!!

a few weeks ago you gave me good advice on here regarding dreams! at that time i thought of you as a lovely person who offers so much warmth.......... after reading this i am horrified you are with such a total w*nker!!!

get rid of him and do it now............. you can do better than that freak, go and be single for a while and enjoy yourself!!

there is some one out there for all of us........ and he aint the one for you!!

[Minxie]

Sizzle, I am going to sound nasty. But get some backbone please.......By you doing what he tells you, and saying things like "he has only allowed me" or "I'm not allowed to wear a skirt" you have become the victim.

And once you become "a victim" then you loose respect for yourself, and he does too. He has the control. Dont keep on doing it to yourself. Be a stronger woman.

Turn it around. Tell him to P*** off. Enjoy some time by yourself. You are a lovely person. Remember that.

[bex401]

SizzleSquid,was in a similar relationship myself,when I was younger,for 9 years,I absolutely adored the man,but everything had to run to his rules.I kept thinking I could change him.I met someone else in the end & later found out he was seeing other women behind my back.

I wasted 9 years of my life,PLEASE do'nt do the same,I am still battling the demons of that relationship 6 years on and I often wish I could ask him WHY(now I'm stronger).

I do know it is hard,but you only live once,let him die a miserable,old git,while you go on to a normal,loving relationship.

You deserve much better and my thoughts are with you,honey,BexXXXXXXX

[Veggibear]

Hiya SizzleSquid how are you doing?

[Sparkles3]

I was in a relationship a good few years back with a guy that I really loved, but that was a b*****d to me. I clearly remember talking to friends about our relationship and saying - "I know that sounds bad, but it's just the way I've put it. Really, you don't understand how it is - he really cares about me". I remember that now from time to time, how even saying it out loud, I didn't want to hear what I was saying and refused to accept how silly it was for me to stay with it.

As everyone has said, you can't just bury your head in the sand. This guy is eroding/has eroded your confidence and the mental abuse will not get any better. If you like going out having fun, go and do it, and don't look back.

Hope you did something about this over the weekend, or can find the strength to do so. Good luck x