Not quite sure what title to give this.......

[Maggie-Mae]

Hi guys, could do with a few wise words and cheering up. My ex has just told me he' s moving in with his new girlfriend. He left me and our daughter because he said he couldnt cope with being a step-parent (I have two other children). The person he is moving in with has three children!!! Isnt there a certain irony in that? Its not that I want to dwell on that aspect so much, its just that I could do with some kind words! xx

[B00]

Never mind kind words- get revenge..........

Sew prawns into the turnups of his work trousers, then sit back and grin ;-)

[Maggie-Mae]

LOL, yeah sounds fun Boo, but not my style, I'd rather just loathe him from afar! xx

[sense4all]

I really feel for you, have a big cyber hug!

If it wasn't this there would be something else that would feel like a smack in the chops! The best way to get any type of revenge is to lead a happy life without him! Lots of love......

[raysparx]

Hi maggie, I think you are better off without somebody like this, he hasn't even got enough backbone to tell you the truth, you are a lot more than he deserves to have,I would think in a month or so when the novelty wears off he will want to come slivering back like the slug he is, all I can say is hit him financially,he has got to look after the child you have together,and then try to slowly but surely re-build your self esteem and get on with enjoying life and your children, Take care, Rayxx

[Cetti]

It does sound as though you are much too good and way too nice for this insensitive brute Maggie-Mae!

You're probably hurting like hell at the moment but when you are feeling stronger you might actually think you and your children have had a lucky escape - as he will eventually treat the new girlfriend in exactly the same way as he treated you. In the meantime be very kind to yourself and do fun things with your kids.

If all else fails, take BOO's advice........

[mrrobbo15]

awwww thats a shame, tis a rubbish day to be down too. lets hope the sun shines, and shines on you, good luck maggie-mae xxx

[Maggie-Mae]

Ah thanks ever so much everyone for your kind words, I feel better already xxxxx

[Cetti]

Good girl :-D

[Robinia]

I know how you must be feeling, & I'm glad you don't want to go down the revenge route.
It will be difficult but try not to call him in front of your children, keep your dignity & I totally agree with what Cetti says - what he has done to you he can, & most likely will, do to her too.
So no need to make yourself ill over miserable thoughts about either of them.....it's easy for us to say, but life will be good again for you one day soon. Enjoy your family. All the best. x

[unruliejulie]

sounds to me like your well shut of him, one day you will find a real man who loves you and your beautiful little girl, then you will sit back, think about your ex and smile sweetly to yourself thinking about what a lucky escape you had. read the thread above this about someones partner adopting her child. There are some wonderful men out there, you just haven't found him yet. Put all your energy into giving your daughter all the love she deserves. Oh, and try not to laugh when his new relationship goes t*ts up!!!! all the bestXX

[bettie]

With a man like that, your better off with out him. Has i always say what goes around comes around and from my experiances it might take time, but you will see that he will be the unhappy one not you in the end.

[madham]

Is he being a good Dad? I empathise with you totally and if he isn't your children will realise it soon enough.

Anyway, I am sure he will realise the grass is not greener when he has 3 children who aren't his making demands on him.

How does his Daughter feel about him moving??

**big hug** l

[Maggie-Mae]

Yes Madham, he is a good dad, I cant fault him for that, which is a good thing really isnt it. He hasnt told my daughter he's moving yet, she's only 4 and theres a limit to her understanding of the situation. Thanks again to everyone for your support xxxx

[jno]

my guess is that his new girl is in for a surprise when he discovers, again, that he can't cope with being a stepdaddy. I have to disagree with BOO though - don't waste your time wallowing in anger and dreams of revenge, it just eats you up inside. You have your own future, which will include better people than him.

All the same, it's worth - when you're feeling calm - trying to go back through the relationship and work out what went wrong - was there something you missed when you chose him? Any signs that he wasn't right for you? This isn't to put blame on you, just so that you can prevent yourself repeating the mistake.