gf trouble

[steve208]

ive just finished with my gf by mistake...sent a text ment for a friend to her. said bout had been meaning to finish with her etc. tis her b'day tommorow and i had completely forgot im so stupid

[Aliceband]

Were you going to finish with her?

[catherine_s]

if you wanted to finish with her, then maybe you've done yourself a favour. its not the best way and she might be really upset, but its better then dragging things on with someone you dont want to be with, which can be more painful

[steve208]

yes i was going to finish with her at some point. im really angry with myself i hav upset her and spoilt her b'day.

i did want to remain friends but not sure that can be so now

[undercovers]

that its the worst way to split up with a girl ever! well done - good work, she is going to be bad mouthing you for months

but seriously if you were going to do it anyway then at least the job is done now and you won't get any grief for not getting birthday gifts etc.

i just wouldn't bother trying it on with any of her mates thats all - how long had you been together then?

[catherine_s]

friends with an ex...never works

[Aliceband]

Wow, that is nasty. Poor girl. I think you can kick the friendship bit out of the window.

Be careful who you text in future!

[steve208]

well i mean we were together for 3 months in late 2004 then split. was with another girl for a while. we got back together in december 2005 but only seen each other every six weks or so as she lives 150 miles away

i doubt will try with any of her friends too far away. me thinks this is a good time to take time out.

must admit felt sick after had sent the msg completely wrong time have not got things...reasons etc straight in my head.

well whats doen is done. good time to be single think will take stock.

[steve208]

ive never been good with technology and a bit clumsey...not a good mix ...so you can see how i managed to send text to wrong person. perhaps will never text again?! that will teach me...or perhaps i could try to never have a gf again then at least dont have to do the breaking up which i always do badly

[catherine_s]

dont beat yourself up over it honey, whats done is done, and if you wanted to get out of it, then youre out of it. i may sound harsh being a girly, and should automatically be on the girl's side, but me and my ex tried to keep our relationship going for 6months knowing it was going nowhere, and it was the most painful difficult time of my life...however if he had dumped me by a mis-sent text, i may have castrated him

[Katie~77]

Oh my life! I bet you feel terrible! Have you spoken to her since you sent it?

[steve208]

ok cathrine so good job i was never ur bf!!! erm im quite worried she might do something silly...but theres nothing i can do shes too far away and tis prob best i leave her alone now? she called askin for an explanation I said well when was the last time i saw you she said a month ago. I said well i mean that what im getting at its just not going to work. then she was like well is that it and i kinda stuttered so she hung up. she thinks im not bothered i am but just hard to care so much when am not v close to her cos of how little i see her.

i split because 1. it doesnt work. 2. we dont click despite effort. 3. we work different hours so difficult to see her. and finally because im v down at mo and need space etc

neway at least it happened this week ive already had one other thing go wrong...tho thats not good things come in threes....

[catherine_s]

do something like purposely fall over, then that will be your third bad thing and nothing should take you by surprise

[steve208]

lol cathrine tho last time i had an accident twas not gd. Was not purposful but was hyper on last day at work for a while and ran/skipped out of a walk in fridge hitting the door frame as i did so i feel to the floor ina puddle of blood. it was only for the quick action of work mates that things were no wrose. i lost good deal of blood and had 4 stiches in my head!!

well if something bad does happen lets just hope it something little!

erm if im not awake to say it then thanks you all for listening had to let my frustration out some where. msn ppl are off line and didnt wanna text anyone this late...besides caused enough probs by txt for one lifetime.

[catherine_s]

answer bank and insomniacs here to help

[steve208]

i swear this now ex....has some sort of divine intervention. Just after had sent last text saying sorry etc my radio cut out...only on one station tho...the one she knows i like radio 5 live! All the channels on fm at the other end work like heart 106.2 but they are all playing lovey type songs. me thinks she is hiding something from me....is she god?!

how do manage to drop off to sleep cathrine?

[Katie~77]

Watch Big Brother! It puts me to sleep!!!xxx

[steve208]

god no katie not big brother!!!

have not watched it at all this time. have not watched any tv for a week or two actually...alrite well the news here and there but just not bothered at mo! might have to watch tv if the radio isnt going to work due to intervention!!

[Katie~77]

It will help you sleep though! Or what about reading a really boring book? That could work.x

[Aliceband]

if you thought the relationship was not working then you should of spoke to her, face to face. Texting a goodbye is a cowards way.

[steve208]

nah will leave radio on and drop off. tho hope dont dream about her as that would be very scary. i garentee there will be no interest from other girls now...have had a few interested and said no.