Ex Girlfriend

[jaredwillias]

Hi, my ex and I recently split up (her decision) she seems to have moved on a lot quicker than me.

Recently though she has been saying she misses me, when i suggested we have a casual relationship, she said people just get hurt. Am i being really suspicious or do you thjink she is seeing another guy?

Its not really my business but I had a feeling she was cheating towards the end and maybe she is with the same guy now?

We are supposed to meet up next week, I have told her i would like a casual relationship, but she wont give me a straight answer as to wether that's what she wants

When i meet her next week, should I just give her her things and a hug and then say goodbyes??? Somehow it seems she is over me very quickly whilst im still wanting her.

[redcrx]

If you still want to be with her then Id say that a casual relationship is the wrong thing to go for. She is probably meaning you when she says people get hurt.

Id say that you would be better off trying to move on rather than hope to get back with her, especially if she was cheating on your towards the end.

[Octavius]

I am really hoping that you are not jibjab in disguise. No matter what good intentions are set out someone will always end up hurt in a casual relationship as one or the other will end up with deeper feelings than the other. I would agree, move on.

[Rubyrose]

If you actually want to be with her and the likely hood is that you do as she ended things so you are dealing with rejection then for gods sake please don't let you know you want her. Thats the worst thing you can do. Once she knows you are there waiting for her she won't want you but she will keep pulling at your heart strings and giving you glimmers of false hope just to keep you hanging on. The only way you will get her back is to create and illusion that you have moved on.

Needyness is not attractive and you want her to think you are going out and having fun without her. Don't be so available to her. I say you give her her things back, say your goodbyes and walk away. If she wants you then she will come after you but the whole time you let her know you are there for her.. she won't bother. Why should she? She already has you so she need not try to keep you interested. Its a 'push me pull you' stage and every little thing you do is a push and as a result she will pull away. But if you are the one appearing to have moved on then she will be more interested in you. People tend to vear towards the ones who seem emotionally distant, coz they know they have already won over the ones showing interest.

xx

[ludwig]

Move on. She's messing you around. She most likely is seeing someone else, but keeping you interested - just as a fall back position in case it doesn't work out.

[johnlambert]

move on mate, or sleep with her sister, that usually puts them off