Should I Send This Card Or Not?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Reading texts - bad. Boyfriend lying to you - also bad.
As you said yourself, you need to know if something's going on or you'll go crazy so you're going to have to confess all and then ask him to be honest with you about those messages and the context of his relationship with this other girl.
If he doesn't like the fact that you read his phone (likely)then you'll have to deal the upshot of that. But you have a right to be in a relationship with someone who's not flirting (if not more?) with another lass and lying to you about it.
It's a new relationship so best to nip it in the bud now. And if it doesn't last then he's clearly not the one.
Hi jkkerr
I think (in my experience, and believe me Ive had this happen a few times), you have to confront him. People will say that you shouldnt be snooping on his phone, but then he shouldnt be seeing someone else and be lying to you also. If things are innocent with this girl then you would know about it, my current boyfriend knows about my male friends and if we meet up now and again, he always has a chance of coming along if he wants. If he's a NEW man then you have to nip it in the bud and let him know that you wont put up with that sort of thing, it may work, it may not but only time will tell. If you think he is going to meet this girl this evening when you are away, can you not cancel or come home early or leave later? I feel bad for you, its horrible but you need to get the bull by the horns!! Good Luck! remember, what goes around comes around!
Hang on a sec, these messages could be very innocent. I have a very close female friend who I would text and say she looked sexy. That doesn't mean I'm sleeping with her or want to. If a woman texted another woman saying that she looked sexy last night would you all automatically assume she was a lesbian..?
This guy hasn't actually lied to you either, from what you say he is just vague about what he gets up to (which most blokes are like I might add).
You are in the wrong here but don't worry, all the women on here will come and cut your blokes balls off after only hearing your side of things to make you feel better!
Why do you think blokes don't give too much away to girls these days? Its probably because women read far too much into every little thing and over react to non existent threats to their womanhood out of petty minded paranoia.
Rant over!
i say B*llocks to Gev1996 - blokes will definately say stuff like that. I dont think its right. If my dad found texts from my mum like that, he would hit the roof. Be honest, sending flirty texts and saying another girl looked sexy and that they had met up doesnt sound innocent. If it is, then he would tell you. A typical bloke would use that as an excuse as to why he DIDNT tell you!!!
Rant over!!
looking at the texts it sounds to me like he did something with her then realised he shouldn't of which is why he said sorry for messing her around. but then he is seeing her again tonight. u need to find a way of asking him about it without revealing that u read the texts to see if he admits anything. if not that then just keep pretending that everything is normal and check his texts again in a week and see what it says then. if u think beyond reasonable doubt that he has done something then get out of the relationship. i hope it all turns out ok for u xXx
jkkerr, you didn't say that in you original post. The point I was making is that a lot of people on here seems to act as judge jury and executioner without knowing the full facts!
Know that you have explained a bit further it would appear that something has happend between them one night. The next step is down to you, but I would say to err on the side of caution.
ps in my opinion it is still wrong to invade someones privacy in that way, even if you may have had cause to do so.