Do you think im in the wrong?

[PinkFizz]

Lastnight I went to a nightclub with my b/f to see a group playing and had a great time.About 2am we were starving and went into a takeaway place opposite to grab a bite to eat.It was packed,and as my b/f tried to order at the counter he accidentally knocked a guy who happened to be very drunk and built like a house!! This guy turned round and raised his fist to my guy,my b/f did the same so me,being an idiot,jumped inbetween them.But that made things worse,instead of the other guy calming down he started spitting into my face to fuck off,with all his little hangers on telling me I didnt know who i was messing with.B/F behind me was just watching the whole thing.I was so mad that I told this guy he couldnt talk to me like that - and he hit me and I fell flat on my back.After a min or two I was lifted up and sat on a chair,offered water etc and the guy was thrown out.Meanwhile b/f went up to counter,proceeded to get his food and we walked back to where we were staying,upon entering the room he went mad at me and said I should have left him to sort it and I could have got stabbed or something.I got upset and said I was trying to help but he just said I asked for what I had got and then went to bed,leaving me crying my eyes out.Today he has woken up and not mentioned it!!

Was I wrong in what I did and do I mention it again?

[loopyc]

does he normally stick up for you?

[purpose]

Being drunk is no excuse in my opinion.

Little Miss Fizz... you know the answer to your question.

All i can say is i hope you get what you want sweetheart (whatever that is) :0)

[~Wingnut~]

Oh Pink I really feel for you because I think your not confronting what the real issue is here (please don't think I am having a go, it is the last thing I would do)

I think the only thing you can do is tell him exactly how you feel, tell him everything! Including him telling you to f*** off just because he was in a bad mood (didn't see that post) it's just not on. How would he feel if you were the one treating him like this? Can he not see how wrong it was to have a go at you when you had just had a very bad shock? he seems to take his bad moods out on you and that's just not on, not to this extent anyway.
You really need to get it all out in the open because I think you are going to find it hard to move on in the relationship if this keeps happening and maybe it's time to question just what it is exactly you want. He needs to know all this, maybe it will shock him into seeing your side and how unreasonable he is towards you.

Good Luck, I really hope you can work this out xx

[PinkFizz]

Hilya Looby - he's neber really been in a situation where he has had to stick up for me to be honest so I cant say how he would normally react.

Purpose - I do know that he finds it really hard to let go of his feelings - he tries too hard to keep them bottled up -but even lastnight shocked me.

Wingnut - hi hun.yes I know you are right and I love him to bits and I know that he loves me.He only sent me a txt from work 3 days ago saying that he loves me with every bone in his body,and then he does this and it makes no sense.

[electricblue]

soz if this been said,but haven't read all the replys but i reckon your bf problem is his ego,i mean his gf took a hiding for him,i'll bet his ego is well and truly bruised,thats why he flipped at you cos he couldn't or darent do it to the big i am!!!!!!

[joko]

your boyfriend is a loser.

i suspect he knew the other guy would batter him so tried to blame you and pretend it was all your fault and try to make you feel bad, guilty and remorseful thereby absolving him of his duty to protect you

his 'oh-so-important' male pride has only been damaged by the fact that he stood by and watched his beloved get assaulted.

i'll bet everyone watching was real proud of him and his actions

i'll bet the staff spat in his food ( i would have!)

as someone else said, yes you perhaps shouldn't have jumped in, but his crime was the worse of the two.

dump him

[joko]

hey justsia, what do you mean?

i noticed pink fizz doesn't leave gaps. do you think she's SR????

surely not...mmmm...now i am paranoid...ahhhhh!!

[Dolly1308]

Pinkfizz actions speak louder than words ! He does not love you with every bone in his body ,he loves himself .Why you stay with this loser I don't know ,you know you are worth something better than this piece of crAp .Come on girl get alife away from him and pick a man next time .Good Luck .(I hope he cleaned up after he vomited or did you do a doormat act and clean it up for him ? I have a daughter who was treated similarly except she didn't drink ,was pregnant and worked hard thankfully she finally got rid of him )

[PinkFizz]

joko - no I am not SR!! God,how many people on here tonight are gona be accused of being her? And whats all this about gaps??

[madham]

I can understand why he was worried you may get stabbed or something.

I can't believe though he didn't give you a cuddle and thank you for standing up for him, but there is no excuse for him not decking the other man in your defence, what a waste of space.. I'm not condoning violence, but next time a great big bully threatens him, stand back he deserves a slap for being such a k..b...d

SORRY RANT OVER!

[joko]

pink fizz - i mentioned on another thread that SR and amykyle don't leave gaps after their fullstops, and wasn't that a coincidence...and they were both denying that they were one and the same...and now everyone is a suspect who doesn't leave gaps...lol

i might start doing it just to confuse people...;o)

[PinkFizz]

joko - still not sure what you mean but I can assure you that I am just little old me - spaces or no spaces!! lol

madham - we have talked about it lastnight,well I talked and he didnt!!I said tongue in cheek that next time I would let him get a hiding and stay out of it,and that I would have appreciated a bit of sympathy. He just blushed and sat there so we shall see how things go.x

[gessoo]

PinkFizz are you now claiming to be Littleoldme!!!! Hope things are better now.

[PinkFizz]

gessoo - very funny!!

Well he was very loving yesterday,we went out for dinner and it still hadnt been mentioned so I brought the subject up and said that I should have left him to get a hiding! He looked very sheepish and I then said that he should have defended me whether I was right or not,purely as I was in trouble.He still didnt say a word,just nodded.Men!!

[CrazyDaisy80]

I pretty much agree with most of the Posts on this Question - whether you should have stepped in and helped isn't the Problem, it's that then he didn't help you.

Glad to hear that you have sorted it out with him though!! Nice to hear something has come out of it!!

P.S. Ward - what Part of Sussex you from, I'm also in Sussex - near Brighton!!

[AB Editor]

I happened to see a drunk guy yelling at his girlfriend or a girl I assumed was his gf in the street on Saturday night and it was just ugly and felt really wrong. I was so tempted to go up to the girl and ask if she was alright, but she looked bored more than anything. Good to hear your bf realised he shouldn't have taken it out on you.