I need advice

[FrancisB]

Can anyone help me?

Whilst at uni, there was this girl on my course. I liked her, and I'm certain she liked me, aswell.

However, uni has now finished. For a number of reasons, mostly relating to shyness, I never got round to saying anything to her (and vice-versa). Now, I feel that I may regret it for the rest of my life.

Someone we both know has her number. I texted her, but she said that the girl in question has a boyfriend. I'm now wondering what should I do? Because, apart from this girl, there is no way I can ever get in contact with her again.

Should I wait for her to break up with her b/f...or make a move now? What do you think?

[stylinsam]

i think that you should tell her how you are feeling and see what comes from it ! i mean what have you got to lose if she feels the same about you she will finish who she is with now but if she doesnt feel the same as you then forget about it move on someone else will come along i will asure you lifes to short to chase one person around all the time live a bit ! just go with the flow!

[sexyrussian]

Leave her.If she liked you she would very likely of asked you out.You are inflatuated NOT in love .If you did go out with her you would soon split up because chances are you are just not right for each other.I think you should move on.I will not say there are plenty more fish in the sea (over used cliche) so I will say there are plenty more pebbles on the beach.And many of them will be more suitable for you.FORGET HER!!!!

[kazza12345]

if you never spoke to her, how on earth do you know she liked you? And how did you like her if you never even had a conversation, or was she just pretty/has big boobs?

[Champagne]

ROFL @ Kazza!!! Men do have the uncanny knack of falling in love with girls on sight. Shallow feckers!

If you are losing sleep over this girl, Francis, then you'd best get her number and get in touch. Send her a text initially and keep it fairly light; remind her who you are, apologise for contacting her in such a round about way, then say you'd like to get to know her if she'd be up for having a new mate. See what response you get and then take it from there. If you don't get a response within 3 days then she's not interested, so you'll need to move on. Best of luck!

[FrancisB]

Well...one day, she was with her friend, and she kept looking over at me. Her friend pointed at me and asked 'Do you like him?' To which she nodded and said 'yes.'

Also, there are certain signs: she keeps staring at me, and I would often catch her looking at me. Also, she came up to me once and she nearly asked me out...but then, she got all embrassed, and walked off.

I've never spoken to her, but she is gorgeous...and from what people have said, she is a nice person. Also, I know certain things about her i.e. we're the same religion, we did the same course etc/

[Champagne]

Then go for it, Francis! At the end of the day you won't be any worse off if she says no. Only a little dejected. Just be aware that if she has a boyfriend she may not be willing to throw everything away on a man she's never really spoken to! If it comes to that then just offer to stay in touch (whatever you do, don't put yourself into the 'male friend' category otherwise you'll never get out of it!).

[FrancisB]

Thanks for all the advice. I am something of a newcomer here, and it is much appreciated.

Also, on the last night of the union, before she left, she looked at me with regret and disappointment, as if to say: 'Why didn't you say anything to me? What didn't you say anything to tell me that you liked me...because I liked you, aswell.'

[kafers]

ok well i spent ages liking this guy and i feel you should go for it. itl make you feel better and youu wont always be wondering what could have happened. besides, though she has a b/f if she responds to you she's obviously not that in to him!

[nicnic]

I think rather than 'making a move' in the sense of telling her you like her as more than a friend, if you can get her number, call or text her saying 'i'd like to stay in touch if you dont mind'. That way you can judge for yourself when and if the right moment comes to make more of a move. If she has a boyfriend, leave her well alone and keep it chatty. But like a few other people have said, in the meantime see if anyone else catches your eye....you'll be meeting loads of new people now you've left Uni. (ps. im sure I know you..., there can't be 2 Francis's with exactly the same problem!)

[pinksmartie]

text her and tell her you'd like to go out with her sometime. Say that you know she's with someone, but if she ever wants to go out then to keep your number and ring you sometime.
Hope it all goes well.

[dancealot13]

Just GO FOR IT!!! You may regret it if you don't because you'll never know. It's alright if she has a boyfriend, you can simply tell her you just wanted to say hello, and you know she has a boyfriend but you just wanted to tell her you always thought she had a beautiful smile. Leave it at that. She will think you are so romantic if you do something so sudtle like that. Maybe slip her your email, or not. Tell her if she ever needs anything you'd love to hear from her.
Do it do it! xxx cheers Good luck!!

[FrancisB]

Nicnic...you say you know me?

Are you the same person I speak to online, the same Nic from up north? Hehee..(smiles)