trust

[bobtheturkey]

is your family the only ones that you can really trust when all is said and done?

[sexyrussian]

No I don't trust my family at all I trust my girlfriend though.

[wonderwoman1]

to give you a sensible answer bob....yes, you're family is probably the only ones you can trust.

[sexyrussian]

No that is sensible I don't trust my family AT ALL.

[fat rascal]

100%........

[beryllium]

i thought i could trust my family. I had a trusting and happy childhood, good christmases and hols, mum and dad and aunt and uncle.....etc.....

my aunt did a terrible terrible thing to me, and now my trust is destroyed forever.....

my mum and dad are still here.... and i do trust them.

my aunt is evil.

[joby1]

I don't trust most of my family, I trust some of my friends, and a few of my family.

Bob, what exactly do you mean? Trust to keep a secret, or trust them with your life?

[n00dles]

I think you generally get a gut feeling bob who you can and who you can't trust....but hey it's not foolproof !!

[noxlumos]

Only trust the man you see in the mirror Bob, apart from my wife and kids I trust no-one.

[baileys]

noxlumos has probably hit the nail on the head bob but i'd like to add, never trust a russian, the sad ones are the worst

[willspal]

I don't trust anyone and have found life a lot easier in thinking this way. Sad but true.

I used to trust my husbands family more than my own until I found out I had been lied to very badly for a long time over something very serious. 2 years down the line and have still never had the 100% truth and I know I never will. I have been met with walls of silence and 'oh we can't remember' over the whole ugly business and it makes me sick to think of the crap I was given about this person (which I believed) and then to find out what he was really about.

So I only trust myself and my children even though they are only 14, 5 and 3. As for anyone else. NO WAY.

WP

[Katie~77]

I trust my family more than anyone else in the whole wide world. They're great.x

[Pippa68]

My grandad always told me not to trust a Russian ~ and I trusted him implicitly!

Yes Bob..count on your family above & foremost. Unless there is something you aren't telling us?

[dot.hawkes]

I give my trust to very few people, life teaches you that. People take things away from you that can't ever be given back. Now it is even harder to be able to trust someone and feel able to share things with them. That's what makes us Human Beings I think, being fallible.

[Booldawg]

love everyone, trust no-one

[scruffscat]

depends on what your families like i suppose, i trust one of my sisters, not my mum or dad.i trust my kids and my bf.

[~Wingnut~]

I trust my family, but that's it! Learnt very quickly, not that long ago to be honest, that my family are the only ones who I can rely on and trust. Every other ****** just uses and walks all over me because I'm too kind. My own fault I guess.
So yes, family are the only ones I can trust.

[Scarlett]

No. I trust my younger sister. My older sister is an idiot. My Dad is a git. My Mum means well but is a bigot.
However, I chose my friends, and I do trust them.

[raysparx]

Prof, I would trust my wife and my two sons with my life, I am lucky that I also have two friends that would and in fact have done things for me beyond belief,so I feel very lucky, Be good, Ray

[country_boy]

I can trust them to be there for me, but can't trust things I say to them go unsaid to other members of the family. Like they say, you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family! I've been lied to by my father to cover for him, only to find out the truth a couple of years later. Still can't see him in the same light now unfortunately.

[Mike Lynkers]

The thing is, none of us can choose our family, and the dishonest, untrustworthy, the thieves, murderers, rapists out there are all part of families. So effectively, we have a random chance of having family members we cant trust. In an ideal world, families would stick together and never betray one of their own, but life ain't like that, and like Dot said, human beings are fallible.

But we can and do choose our own friends and partners, so provided you are a half-decent judge of character, Id say you have just as good a chance of finding someone, or several people outside of family you can trust unconditionally, possibly even more than your closest family members.

My ex-gf couldn't trust me. Right from day one the paranoia and insecurity was obvious. I did nothing to warrant this, and over time, rather than getting better as I proved myself, it got worse. Turned out her ability to trust, well in fact her trust in human race had been obliterated from a very young age in ways Im not even gonna talk about. This was inflicted by family members.

Now the point I'm making is that in me, she found someone she really could trust. I would have never let her down. But we split a few months ago after 5 years together, ultimately because she still couldn't trust me. I loved the her to death and spent 5 years of my life proving this, but because of those so called "family" members, our relationship was tainted and eventually destroyed by an endless stream of unprovoked accusations, insults, suspicions and paranoia. And that mistrust and paranoia was not provoked by me, an outsider, but by family.

So in answer to your question Bob, No. We make our own way in this life, and ultimately, family are just who you are born into, and are lucky/unlucky enough to grow up around. The people you can trust are those who earn it, family members or not. Actions speak louder than blood.