seeing ex girlfriend on a casual basis - should i?

[steve208]

i know this is something that can come up a lot on here but does this boil down to me either going with my lust intentions or going with logic?

im trying ...ok well not got going yet but hope to try sort my job situation etc out so logic part of me thinks going to see her for a few days could mess me up emotionally...but i dunno.

[claireyfairy]

I'm just as bad hun. My ex is coming round for his tea tonight and we split TWO YEARS ago!!!!

[~posy-jo~]

use your logic mate. get your job situation sorted first so u r feeling a bit more settled that way. then if lust takes over after that then u won't need to worry about feeling messed up as much coz u won't have as much to worry about then, if that makes sense!!!
hope whatever u do it all works out for u xXx

[steve208]

thanks posy.

you are right i know....job situation is getting to me at the mo. Just that ex gf's house mate is going away so would have had house to our selfs oh well im sure there will be other times either with her or maybe a new gf if i sort life out first!

i wish i didnt have lust feelings!!

[kipchik]

You're a guy,,,,its built in at conception!!

[Veggibear]

This is how crazy psycho stalkers are made - reap what you sew.

[jen1302]

agree with posy-jo stay clear (for the meantime) and get your head sorted. I recently met up with my ex and this has screwed up my head to no end, he know thinks there is a chance between us which i dont want.sometimes you have to be selfish and look after no.1
Get your priorites sorted and push lust to the side there will plenty time for that with a new girl once your as sound as a pound !

[China Doll]

Ex's are ex's for a reason... I don't think it's the best idea to see them on a casual basis, someone is bound to feel screwed (excuse the pun) over and that just creates more problems.

I'd concentrate on the new job and perhaps go for some beers with your mates.... if you're that lusty I'm sure there's a seedy club you can find a willing partner in lust in ;0)

[steve208]

hum thanks to all. Dont think will go and not too worried bout telling her as she has said its up to me. She prob knows i will say no and is v laid back person anyway.

veggiebear....im not any kind of stalker just reminising about rekindling things with someone thats all.

China doll....im not that lusty! i will erm just wait till find someone can feel good with and who is not so far away from where i live like my ex! Not doing distance any more!

[China Doll]

Sorry Steve... no lusty offence meant xx

[steve208]

no no china doll none taken was just a context thing if that makes sense.

[~posy-jo~]

hi again steve i was just wondering if u thought anymore about joining the navy? u never know u might end up living down near me!! although don't let that put u off!! xXx

[steve208]

down near you posy...where abouts is that?

Not thought too much more about it erm gonna go with dollie on this one and leave it a while until making big decisions. Need to get other things sorted first.

[~posy-jo~]

yeovilton, somerset there is a big base here - navy, raf and army xXx

[steve208]

oh right thats cool

ive not been to yeovilton but have been to culdrose which is closer to lands end and purely a navy base!

[~posy-jo~]

my husband was based at culdrose for 5 yrs.

[steve208]

hum im thinking am tempted to see her now i mean i can sort jobs situation out next week maybe.

could go with the old line of only young once....and i am starting to feel oldish and people always say tis better to regret doing something than not doing it.
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[China Doll]

Did you go see her then? Enquiring minds want to know... actually just nosy minds really ;0)

[steve208]

no not been yet ...its this coming satarday she wants me to go up there. for couple of days.

[China Doll]

Hmmm.... Did you split up on good terms or does one of you still like the other more? If that's the case I still wouldn't go.

Also, are you going up for sex, to hang out as friends (or both) or might you actually want to get back with her.

Although I do agree with the you're only young once scenario... don't know babe, hard to give answer without knowing situation, guess you may have to go with your gut.

[steve208]

im not sure about spliting on god terms ....i sent her a text by mistake...it was about spliting with her but the text was ment to be to someone else.

Though she was v upset and angry at the time she still keeps texting me as much as when we were together. Saying that though i never saw her that much and she was more into me than me into her if that makes sense.

Well yes it would just be mainly for sex. perhaps i should try to make a clean break of things as have had this prob before where have been going back to ex's either just short term or gettin back with them. I need to learn to move on i think.

sorry for all the thinking out loud here...hum found this cool group on the net last night...would be good to join though would be scary. i need to branch out make new friends etc and this group is just that really for people wanting to make new friends and do lots of different activities. Maybe it would also act as something to focus my attention to moving on. ? ah dear life eh?!!

sorry i tend to go on a bit when the cogs start working in my brain.