seeing ex girlfriend on a casual basis - should i?

[steve208]

i know this is something that can come up a lot on here but does this boil down to me either going with my lust intentions or going with logic?

im trying ...ok well not got going yet but hope to try sort my job situation etc out so logic part of me thinks going to see her for a few days could mess me up emotionally...but i dunno.

[China Doll]

No probs... you wanna see the inner workings of my brain when I get a cob on.. they have to replace the hamster on the wheel every 10 seconds due to exhaustion.

I have to say (without meaning to be harsh, just honest) that I think it would be wrong to go and spend a couple of days with your ex if she really is more in to you than vice versa, it sounds like you could do some serious damage to her head and that's not really very fair. Sorry if that sounds mean, it isn't meant to be.

Sounds to me like you're a bit bored and are looking around for something to do so in that case hun I think the internet group sound cool. I'm always a bit dubious about internet and 'real life' so to speak but if this is just a group meeting for drinks and fun then I think you should do that instead. You defniately need to find something to focus on... and possibly something that doesn't have breasts too for a while... until you get your head and job a bit more sorted anyway ;0)

And don't worry about life, that's just the thing that happens when you're not looking... or some such quote...

[steve208]

no no the group are not an "internet" group i just found their site on the internet.

its called plus 18....check it out on google see what you think...tis just like a friendship group for 18 to 35. which is good because i find some people's suggestions for making friends to be volunteering or other community groups. All very well and im willing and have done my bit in that way but tend to find a lot of the people in these groups are older. Also i dont have the time (ie cant do satardays cos of work) to take up playing hockey again.

[China Doll]

Lol...first thing I get is plus 18 dress sizes, think I'll skip that.

[claireyfairy]

if you're not really all that into her any more then you really shouldn't be going round to get your leg over. It's not nice really is it and it's not just stopping yourself from moving on but her aswel. You've got to give her the opportunity to get on with her life and meet new people without wondering if there is still a chance with the two of you.

[steve208]

thanks clairy...rather scary that someone called claire replied as ex's name is claire...im always suspitious that i dunno bumping into people where i should not if that makes sense.


China doll hope you didnt find anything too bad on google...the site is this one:-

http://www.18plus.org.uk/

[claireyfairy]

Your ex is called Claire? Then def stay away, all us Claires are mental!!! ;-)

[steve208]

yup she was claire indeed...ive been out with a few claire's and def all a bit mental!

[claireyfairy]

Talk about having a type!!! Lots of Claires? Well at least it cuts down the risk of calling one of them by the wrong name!! lol!

[China Doll]

Honestly... stupid meetings, anyone would think I come here to work...

My dad's wife is called Clare... she's a lovely nut job bless her.

I think it looks cool, it says you get four weeks free membership (or at least I thought I saw that) so doesn't look like you'd have much to lose hun... if you hated it you could just stop going. I think it might be scary at first but that the sort of thing it is people would be really welcoming and friendly. It's like a youth group for adults.

[steve208]

here? you mean work....you are on tinternet whilst at work...tut tut!!

anyway looks like i phrased it wrong about the adult youth group....i would hope they would be friendly but yes seems flexible in terms of no commitment straight away.

ok well tennis starting soon so gota go watch tim henman!

[China Doll]

Watch Tim Henman? Wow, you really do need something to focus on ;0)
Have fun!