Just looking...................

[sandrajo]

Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman/man after you are in a committed relationship?

[steviep165]

this is why the AB is weird. poor old sandrajo might just have been having a good old letch and we've decided she's in a failing relationship and have been doling out advice all over the place!!

[Gevs1966]

Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu!

[enigma]

That's why the emphasis was on 'if' Steviep. She hasn't really given us a lot to go on and perhaps I am misinterpreting what she is saying but in her original question she asked if it was okay to KEEP noticing another woman/man ie not just a passing interest. She later said
" I mean when you're attracted to someone else , well not attracted but the person seems to be in your thoughts more. " and in answer to Chinadoll's post "Yes chinadoll , swings and roundabouts". That to me gives the impression that the object of Sandrojo's affection is more than someone she has glanced upon in passing if he is in her thoughts. I notice good looking people - as does my husband - but they are not in my thoughts. If they were , alarm bells would be ringing for me and judging by your post where you tell her to be sure of what she really wants , I assumed that this was what you had interpreted the post to mean. I wasn't doling out advice as such - merely offering a word of caution. Only Sandrajo herself knows how she really feels and it is on this information that she will make a decision. I hope that it all works out for you x

[laurence2]

I have no problem looking, as my wife and i totally trust each other

Ps, if your partners got a hang up on it, either question them about it, or wear Sunglasses?

[Octavius]

Yes steviep, in the beginning of the q I had visions of someone walking down the street and looking around and thinking, ooh she�s nice, he�s nice, she�s nice etc etc. But from the additional posts from sandrajo, it appears that the �keep noticing� refers to one person in particular.

[steviep165]

i know. i did bring that up in my very first comment. all i'm saying is that just because she seems to be thinking about him a lot doesnt mean she's planning on doing anything about it. we shouldnt be leaping to conclusions based on the minimal information we've been given.

[Kay]

If you both love each other why worry? Its natural to look. My mum used to say " Its ok to shop as long as we dont open our purses" .lol.

[Pippa68]

Is it ok if I keep fantasising about Johnny Depp ~ but only if he is dressed up as Captain Jack?

[sandrajo]

sorry enigma, it was just a thing i wondered about, and i did kind of confuse the question by saying if the person was in your thoughts, but thanks everyone for the advice, been very interesting. xx