mastabation addiction i need to stop

[worried.me]

hey there all.

I am sorry to post a topic like this and am rather embaressed but here goes. Basically i cant stop mastabating at least once or twice a day and i dont like doing it. I want to stop but cant seem to. Any advice?

[bobtheturkey]

oh christ more of my tax gone to fund more bull

[wolf63]

the fact that you have had the guts to post this problem is a great start. A lot of people have hang-ups about sex, they either put up with a situation that they are uncomfortable with or they make steps to address the problem.

Speak to your counsellor, if he/she can't help then they will refer you on to somebody that can.

Think back to when you were younger and see if you can find a reason for everything that is going on in your life. Sometimes it is something that has happened or something that has been said - anything unusual, not necessarily terrible or bad.

Let's face it guys are usually pathetic at facing up to problems with sex or relationships (ie they do not want to be considered to be less of a man) - you have made a major step in the right direction.

I suffer from bipolar disorder and know how awful depression can be and how destructive it can be to your life and relationships.

Good luck

Susan

[worried.me]

Thanks for your support bob. Well look at it this way...if i can get help to make progress in my life then maybe i will get a better job and pay more tax so therefore paying back the small amount it will have cost for someone to help me for a few months.

[whiffey]

bob is not the most reassuring of correspondents on here, nor the most intelligent, but very fond of taking the michael out of other people.

[bloaterbum]

enjoy while you still have the energy you won't go blind

[bobtheturkey]

whiffey yesterday "text me and i will give you my number" you halfwit :)

[bobtheturkey]

i wouldnt take the michael out of you just your kneecaps freeaaak :)

[drestie]

I'd like to take the michael out of you, whiffey ;)

[steviep165]

tell me worried, what do you find the best method for avoiding chafing?

[zerocool]

Bobs got a point, you could get another job at the sperm bank,... you'll get paid for all your extra effort and twice a day wont seem so bad.

Its the same for us guys as it is for females, "no one can love you better than yourself", why get someone else to do it when you know exactly how you'd like it done.

On the serious side, there is no 100% effective way to stop bashing the bishop, but you can try testing your will power by seeing if you can last a week, or more. If you can control yourself then good luck, but you might end up pretty aggresive and moody.

If all else fails, chop it off or become a monk.

[Avadrea]

reading your posts. This thing is deeper then just feeling a problem over masterbating. This is a emotional issue which I think you already know. I cant really give you to much advice. You already know you are having depression issues. Perhaps your dislike of self sexual gratification stems from it making you feel lonely afterward. And yet you dont feel ready for a realationship. (I'm just guessing) but it sounds like you connect sex with deepr feelings. ITs only natural to want to be close emotionaly AND pyshcialy with someone. And the sensation might be stricking that inner cord. Its hard to move on when you feel you have lsot that specail person in your life. BUt I have learned myself that instead of missing them I am joyous over the time I did have with them. ANd bless their life with pure love. Even though I do sometimes wake at night acheing for my own lost soul mate and that was almost 5 years ago. Anyway this is a long answer but the point I guess I want to make is... this is a part of your other issues and realyl you shoudl mention it to your counselour. OR if you dont feel good about that. THink about WHY you dont enjoy it. Is it cause you feel unfillfilled? Lonely? Dirty? Then ask why you feel those things. Then when you know why maybe you can feel more comfortable with talking about it to your counselour. I hope for you the best. I know this is a rough thing I have had simular issues.