I asked a question......

[sandrajo]

on parenting last week, if i should go on holiday when i knew my mother inlaw didnt have long to live, i took on board all the advice i was given and i decided for my daughters sake not to go. My mother in law passed away today at 6.20pm and out of a family of 6 children it was me who was with her, which pleased me as I would of been in Turkey if i had decided to go. Have you ever had to make a quick decision on something, did you make the right choice or do you regret it?

[natalie_1982]

Yep, last week my kitten, Matilda, was really poorly and I made 3 trips to the vets in 2 days. I was due to go away early Friday morning and had previously arranged for someone to care for her, but she started getting poorly and was having seizures. On the Thursday evening I knew I had to take her again to the vets as she another seizure and the medication and injections didn't seem to be doing anything. When I got there the vet told me that Matilda had meningitis and that it would be kinder to put her to sleep, which I agreed.
Had I gone on my weekend away I know she wouldn't have survived the weekend, especially knowing how hot it has been. I am glad that I spent the last 48 hours holding her and syringe feeding her so that even though she was only little she knew that I loved her lots and lots.

I know that's a bit lame compared to a human, and I am sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sure you will get and give lots of support to your family x x x x

[cherryelm]

sorry to hear about your loss sandrajo but it must have been very coforting to your mother in law to have you with her. love cherryelm

[Wee Kaz]

I think that was a very noble thing you did sandrajo and I am sure your mother in law and your husband would both have apprecited it.

I had a situation last September when I had a holiday booked with 2 of my friends to Spain. The week leading up to the holiday my boyfriends gran fell ill and it was thought that she wouldn't last the day. Had she passed away early on I could've got the chance to go to the funeral and wouldn't have felt as bad going on holiday but she passed away towards the end of the week and the funeral was an hour before my flight. I hummed and hawed, spoke to my boyf's mum and my boyf and they both insisted I go as they had their family around them. I tried to change my flight to the following day but the airline wouldn't allow it and everyone insisted I go as I was there for them and his gran the week up to her death so I went. I phoned him every day and texted him a few times a day. I hated being away from him but knew that sometimes men grieve better on their own than having a fussy girlfriend hanging around them so knew that the time on his own would've helped him grieve. Don't think I regret it as I think it helped my boyf more than the holiday helped me!

[Hellion]

SandraJo I'm so sorry for your loss - but I'm sure it is comforting knowing you did the 'right' thing.
I always think that decisions made quickly are often the right ones as your brain sort of 'gets to the point' as it were.

[lilacben]

Hi again sandrajo , I am sorry for your lose but so pleased you was with her at the end. As I said last week it was an awful decison you had to make.You did the right thing. I didnt and wish with all my heart I had not listerned to my dads doctor. It is something I really regret, that I wasnt there at his side when he died.It caused me to have a breakdown and still ten years on I am suffering depression. I didnt mention it last week as I didnt think I should.If only I had gone with the feelings in my heart. The last words he said to me was "you go I won't be here when you come back" those words haunt me now and will forever I expect. Thing is I was the only one and he never liked me going on hoilday, even when mum was alive.they would both be very off when we said we was going on holiday. But anyway go ahead now and make a booking for that holiday you was going on and enjoy it.!! Brendaxx

[WendyS]

I am sorry for your loss, but you did the right thing and despite losing your holiday, you can look back on events with a free conscience. We can never snatch back the past and all of us make decisions occasionally which we later regret, but I think where matters of life and death are concerned, you don't get a second chance to turn back the clock and make it come right so it's all the more important to get it right.