First date.....Who pays?

[glammapus]

I'm going for a meal tonight with a new bloke. I know he's going to pay because thats the sort of guy that he is but should i at least offer to pay half. Is it rude to assume that the guy will pay?

[JOEYGREEN]

I think you should at least offer to pay half. If he insists that he wants to pay the bill himself then fair enough but I think you should at least offer. Hope it all goes well.

[rom]

i pay for all first dates. everyones in the world
send me the invoice
its on me !

[~Wingnut~]

Hi glammapus

Same as others, offer to pay your half if that's what you want to do but don't expect him to say ok :o)

You could always offer for it to be your treat next time, that's if you want to see him again ;o)

Have a great time!!

[Octavius]

Completely agree with Joeygreen. Although he may insist, it is rude to assume. So at least offer to go halves.

[raysparx]

Hi glammapus,

First of all have a lovely night out, I am at an age where I think the man should pay,if somebody asks you out,they should pay, I never ever let a lady pay, I know things have changed,but that is how I see it, different thing when you are married,my wife treats me to a meal out,but on a first date, No way, You could offer,but if he accepts without any arguing,ditch the tight sod. take care, Ray xx

[laurence2]

i always pay, its not a flash thing, its just me, it would be nice of you to offer as most men would appreciate that touch, if your insisting on contributing to the evening, pay for a bottle of wine whilst he pops out to the toilet, this is providing one of you is not driving.

At the end of the day, it will be nice of him to pay as i prefer the old fashioned ''COURTING'' days where the man does all the work {including paying for dinner} to impress the ladies without going to much OTT

Have a GREAT NIGHT by the way

[spk]

Ahh Ray always the gentleman, can I have one of your sons Im a good catch really really..

[madham]

Good luck on the date, offer once and if he insists, let him pay, but make sure you get the drinks/coffees afterwards.

[spk]

Sorry glammapus for hijacking- I meant to say I agree you should offer to pay half, nut I wouldnt be impressed if he accepted your offer. Its nice to be nice though and be independent. Have a lovely time let us know how it goes !

[noxlumos]

I always pay and think especially on a first date that the man should. However what I do think is ok is if he say pays for the meal, wine etc and then you insist to pay for drinks, just to show willing. It won't embarass him then in any way. If he expects you to pay half then that's not really on.

[kazminx]

call me old fashioned but i wouldnt even offer!! no way, let him pay and have a nice expensive wine with the lobster!!!

[laurence2]

Kaz, lol

God you don't sound like the ''WAITED ON TYPE''

[raysparx]

Hi spk, thank you,you are very kind, both my lads are still single 31 & 28, and I know they treat ladies the same as I would,I told them when they were very young how to treat people, I wish they could find that special someone,maybe it could be you,only problem is we are all in North Wales,not many free ladies in this area,maybe we should have stayed in London, take care spk,you are lovely and there is someone special waiting for you, Ray xx

Excuse me butting in glammapuss,hope you don't mind xx

[cometomama]

Hey all
OK
enjoy your night by the way. About he paying stuff. It could be a trickey business. I am sure no matter who pays the bill in FULL (apart from your husband/dad/brother) , they still expect you to atleast make an offer to pay or share. So in my case if he is the man he would say no way and thanks, but if he agrees, then you pay your share and sod the tight sod as ray said.

Bottom line don't forget to make an offer to share the bill.

[spk]

Im in Vietnam at the moment Ray so a bit far away unfortunately ! Thankyou for your kind words I hope I meet somebody lovely too. Sorry again glammapus ! :O)