am i silly to cry?

[steve208]

i have just been watching Trauma on bb1. But it has really upset me. I always get emotional with this programme now after a number of close friends and relatives have died suddenly. I know people might say oh well dont watch it but i like the programme and didnt realise some of the people would have similar incidents to those i knew.

[nursecarla]

Nothing wrong with that at all steve x x x x

[rugeleyboy]

i used to laugh at men that cried, until my best mate died!!

now i cry at emotional adverts!! FFS!! sometimes i am a big girls blouse!!

[nursecarla]

Even the toughest blokes cry, the toughest one i know did when he lost someone he loved, its human and its natural x x x x x x

[rugeleyboy]

got to agree with you there!!

i went to a funeral last year, the woman who died's 11 year old daughter was wrenching from the bottom of her stomach, there was not 1 single dry eye in the church!!

i remember looking at this bloke who had a flat nose,but ugly and he looked as hard as hell, but he was crying like a baby?

[~posy~]

not silly at all steve. definately not xXx

[dot.hawkes]

I have watched that too and found the effort of the medical teams amazing, if we weren't meant to cry with emotion the man upstairs wouldn't have given us tears

[joby1]

I used to hang around with group about 15 years ago now, 5 lads went out on a jolly, crash, 2 dead out of their car. (two cars, 1 speeding) , i think 5 dead ln all, still makes me think now.

[jiggy-gb]

I think it takes a strong man to cry for good reason, far better let out than bottled up xxx

[steve208]

My day was going so well so far dealing with other things and trying to get room sorted and think about what job applications to do tommorow.

[steve208]

Feels like i have not dealt with it. I felt like I had managed to control my crying but been bad of late. My grandad is not well and i worry about him. I lost my other grandad a few years ago, my dads best friend (my godfather) died last year while i was on holiday, and my nan was killed 5 years ago while crossing the road to her house.

I am always asking my self who is next or what bad event is next. Bad i know but however much i try i never feel ive been there enough with someone.

[~posy~]

bl00dy hell mate that is a lot ot deal with!! you can't expect yourself to be over it by now!! so stop beating yourself up about it. just try to deal with it as best as you can and in your own time xXx

[steve208]

yes i suppose it is a fair bit to deal with it but i dunno i feel that although i find a lot of things hard i should not. And so much of the time i wish i could turn the clock back or just go back in time to have some good times with my nan....

[steve208]

went to my cousins wedding and had to try hard not to cry as the reading from the bible was the same one i read at my nans funeral. Not sure the bride etc would have known this and anyway tis prob a well used reading.

I have the ability to do a lot but dont which infuriates me and so then get down then do nothing and so it goes on.

[~posy~]

don't get down, give yourself a slap round the face and force yourself to keep going then you will have the sense of acheivement for doing what you wanted!! xXx

[joby1]

steve, mate, on october 25 th last year, my Nan was in hospital and so was my stepmum who was pregnant with my half sister, I got a phone call of my dad to say my stepmum had lost the baby and my nan was dead. My sis was called Rosie by the way and she was born at 39 weeks.
It was my stepmums brother who died in the car crash, so who's unluckier? Doesn't matter does it, things touch you, that's it. x

[steve208]

erm ok yes things do touch me and im sure everyone. I am sorry about what happened to you. All these things seem to come at once as seems with you also...maybe there are positive things on the horizon.

[redcrx]

I watched it and cried. It was the last story, when they went to tell the lady how ill her husband was. My grandad died after being operated on for the same thing, there were complications after the op. I miss him so much and that just made me think how awful it mustve been for my nan when she heard what was wrong.
Its been 10 years since he died and i remember seeing him on the life support the day he died.
Im crying again now.
and who cares if men cry, its great to see that they have the same range of emotions as us women. (Just please dont get pmt or the world will be a nightmare) x

[steve208]

Yes the bit with the old man with an anyerism was particuarly bad. My dads best friend died of something very similar to this.

[joby1]

so love to all then past and present.xxxx