Suspicious Behaviour

[gleaveyweave]

Last night, I was driving back wth my kids from parents house and saw my hubby come off the roundabout in front of us and we followed 1 car behind him until the next roundabout about a mile from our house until we got caught behind a tractor and lost him. (he had not seen us). When I got home, he should have been there at least five minutes before but was not in, I assumed he'd popped to tesco. He arrived about 10 minutes later and when I asked if he had been to tesco he said no. I explained that we had seen him and asked where he'd been. He came out first with some weird story about disposing of some stuff from work in litter bins and that I should have seen him parked up near our road where he left his car to walk to the bin. Well I did not believe that at all and told him so. After several variations on this theme, he said ok, the truth is that I went to the video shop to try and get you a copy of Vera Drake (film i've never got round to seeing, but want to) cos I was still feeling guilty about Sunday night. (he had a few to many beers and was a pain in the arse!) I should point out that he had an affair a few years ago and there have been a couple of other issues since. I just don't know what to think? Anyone have an opinion? TIA x

[crete]

he couldnt have got up to much in ten minutes , does he have a mobile phone or did he maybe stop at a telephone box ?

[gleaveyweave]

he does have a mobile, yes.
he could also have stopped at a phone box, there are several near by.

[crete]

sorry me again what do you mean bt a couple of other issues ?

[gleaveyweave]

Well, the main one being that I felt things were a bit odd 8 or so months ago and so checked his phone sneakily only to find a text from a colleague at his now ex workplace saying that she loved him and hoped he would think about her over the weeked. When I confronted him, he said that she had a thing for him which he had tried to discourage. (she was in her late thirties by the way!)

[teag1rl]

Or he could have actually gone to the video shop to try and do something nice for you?

[PinkFizz]

I wouldn't have told him that I had seen him - if he is up to anything you have put him on his guard now.

[paulakea]

What time of day was it, does he do things on the spur of the moment like trying to go and get you a film? had you mentioned that film recently?

[gleaveyweave]

yes teagirl, but why the bizarre story first??!!!

[gleaveyweave]

Paulakea, it was about 6.30 and no I hadn't mentioned the film recently and yes, occasionally he will do something like that.

[crete]

alert alert re message on mobile phone come on !!!!!!!!!!!

[paulakea]

Like has been said if he is up to anything he will be on his guard now.
And if he does do things like this then maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
On saying that it is odd how he suddenly thought to get you the film yet you hadnt mentioned it lately.
hmmmm - men???!!!!!!

[gleaveyweave]

I know crete, I know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[crete]

with all due respect if you are genuine cause there some weird people on this site lately i believe you have your suspicions and best to discuss them with a close friend

[gleaveyweave]

Believe me crete, I am genuine and I am about to go and ask my mates opinion now. Thanks for taking the time to answer x

[PinkFizz]

Ok,the facts that you know of so far:

1. he has definitely had an affair in the past
2.he has had at least one txt from a colleague saying that she loves him and is he thinking of her
3.he made up a story about where he was on way home then changed it to a story about a video.

No wonder you are suspicious!!!

[crete]

no problem good luck my only advice is go on your own instincts

[gleaveyweave]

Exactly Pinkfizz, sometimes I think i'm going to go insane with the constant suspicion he creates. Am I being blind or paranoid, I just don't know........

[PinkFizz]

I think after the affair he needed to do anything humanely possible to build your trust in him again and he isnt exactly doing that is he??
I hate to say it but If I found a txt like that after an affair he would be out on his ear!! I don't suppose you wrote down the womans number did you?

[crete]

i feel really unhappy for you today you are feeling awful but it will improve eventually keep us posted

[crete]

pink fizz, you DO talk some sense