S**t Day

[Briar_x]

Hope everyone is having a better day than me.

I have just been unceremoniously evicted from a relationship that I thought I didn't care about, amazingly I did. I feel sick, really sick and shakey. Plus it was a pointless thing to have had an argument over, but hey, we have and its over.

How rubbish do I feel?

[redcrx]

aww,

just sending you a hug. Hope you feel better soon. x

[Briar_x]

thanks redcrx.

I hate to be one of those bear it all people, but I just don't actually know what to do with myself. I'm not upset, but I don't know what I am. Dunno if I am angry or what!

This time last week everything was fine. I shall go out this weekend and try to fill a hole so to speak!!

[liquidspace]

You have my sympathy. I argue with my bf most of the time, he is really fed up of me at moment (I think PMT is to blame!). Last night he called me so many names.

So what was YOUR argument about?(if you dont mind me asking)

[teag1rl]

Aww, poor Briar. Big hug. Go and do something tonght-Thursday is nearly the weekend-don't wait til tomorrow!! And er, filling the hole will be fun but if he's hoping to get back too he might be unimpressed if he finds out and not make move to get it back on track again-still will do the stoopid boy no harm to see you out having fun!

[China Doll]

Awww... well if you didn't care about it then do you think it might be a case of hurt pride cause he ended it? Big hug xx

[redcrx]

Briar,
Maybe you need to decide if your upset more because you were dumped or because you realise you did want the relationship to continue.

Take some time to work it out in your own head and then youll know what you need to do.

[Briar_x]

well this was our first argument, and it wasn't even that.

I was told by his brother that he had been meeting and staying with other women that he met off the net (his bro has mental health problems) so I sent him a text just stating what I had heard, not accusing him and then I get a text back saying he was angry with me for believing it... so I told him that it was very hard not to when you are being told definitely that it happened, and that it was his brother who told me and that I wasn't actually accusing I was just telling him what I had been told. I then get a text saying that I was too insecure (I mean who wouldn't be given that info)... it carries on but thats the jist - basically its my fault for believing his mental brother and I have all the issues not him. (even though he expects me to listen and be ok about the fact that he witters on at great length about his 'wife')

[crilly2k]

Brian this will ofend most people but no matter how old a man gets he can always get a younger woman

Sorry ladies I just live in the real world i'm not trying offending you

Go fishing Brian;-)

[Briar_x]

Thank you all for your answers.

I think I am shocked that I did care - well my emotions lead me to believe I did/do.

I have tried saying sorry etc etc... which hurt like hell - I'm not good at saying sorry! But he still won't even meet up to talk about it. My best mate says that he reacted in an incredibe violent way when I was beign mature about the whole thing. I just don't know now, this is why I don't like relationships. Damn it I am determind not to cry!

Thank you all again, sorry to be 'all about me'

Bx

[redcrx]

Briar,
Sounds to me like you are well out of it. If you werent accusing him they he didnt really need to react to such an extreme.
If you really want to make this work then give it a few days and try to talk to him in a calm way.
I think you are justified in feeling sick and shakey as he basically tried to blame all this onto you.

[Briar_x]

crilly

I am younger than him! and the name is BRIAR.

But thanks for that - was soooo helpful

[crilly2k]

Sorry briar i thought it was brian well i hope you are a man (please God)

[teag1rl]

Dont get, it. If boyf that was married and you are his extra girlfriend? Then he;s using needy as excuse to get rid of you sorry and you should kick him in the goolies and forget about him. Chances are also that if he's cheating on wife he could well be meeting women off net too and brother was telling truth. I have been in exact situation i describe! Of course, that might all be rubbish and I have got wrong end of the stick-I'm confused!

[Briar_x]

nope not a man.

Definitely female here!

[redcrx]

Briar,
move on hun. He really doesnt sound very stable and I cant see that what his brother said was completely without some truth.

Sorry

[Briar_x]

Ok to explain ...

He seperated from his wife at the beginning of the year. She was cheating on him frequently by all accounts.

He and I got together and this time last week were really happy. How things change!

He kept talking to me about his wife and the things that she had done... even telling me about the hour long conversation they had and hugged at the end of it - and then he knew the relationship was over etc etc...

I was like ok how do you feel about that instead of flying off the handle about it which I suspect most people would have done. I just don't know any more. Perhaps I was too much of a walk over. I just feel like I can't win any more!

[crilly2k]

I'm really sorry briar,

Well it works both ways you can always find an older man again

[teag1rl]

aw babe. sounds like you've been a rock. you're upset now but don't lower yourself and ask him why. delete him and get out on the town xxx

[liquidspace]

crilly - what is your issue with the age thing. What does it matter if she is older or younger than him for godssake!

Briar - I would play it cool if I were you , difficult I know, but he seems to be the one who is being unreasonable here, and after all, if he really wants you, he will let you know!

[crilly2k]

Liquidspace you have no right to comment on my opinion as i have not commented on yours its up to briar to read my opinion, thats what this place is all about...... you ask other people there opinions