Spoilt Children

[Headless Rat]

My parents are over 60 & two of my siblings, both in their 30's, are STILL living at home.One of my siblings pays X amount per month to my parents & the other sibling contributes little or nothing. Neither sibling has a car and so, as they have a commute of an hour to work every morning, my mum ends up bringing them both in to the bus-at different times mind you!before she even heads off to work herself. The extent to which either sibling helps with the housework isn't worth mentioning either. It makes me so mad to think that all their lives my parents have done literally EVERYTHING in their power to provide us with the very best education and opportunities possible , while denying themselves of luxuries,& yet they are STILL not free to enjoy their retirement as they should.Another brother & me have both tried to persuade the other two to move out & either rent or buy a place near their work but it is like talking to a brick wall. My parents are too nice to ask them to move out but myself and the other family members are worried that they will have heart attacks from the strain of it all. What can we do as SOMETHING needs to be done rapidly before it's too late???Thanks

[4getmenot]

Its really there business. If your parants arent bothered then leave it. It will just hit them hard when they have to cope on there own for themselves.

[oldwoman]

Have you asked your`e parents if they want them to move out. If they do then tell them you will give them your assistance. I would love to live here with just me and my husband but our daughter is epileptic and needs supported living which no one will help with. I think they are going to get a shock when they have to make there own way in the world. I thought it was my oldest daughter writting this when I first read it. We seem to be all in the same boat.

[joko]

my sister is 33 and has never lived away from home, i left when i was about 20 and my brother about 22, she contributes nothing, despite having worked - she freely admits shes got it easy so why leave....however, my dad still even now tries to get me to move back home and i don;t believe they want her to leave ( she is soon as shes having a baby) - my dad still will not let me walk anywhere - even around the corner, insists on giving me a lift. he also worried himself sick because i live alone and often drives past my house and checks the back door etc

some older parents feel bored and lonely and worried when the kids go so find out if they are bothered before getting involved

[shaneystar2]

It's really your parents decision .Perhaps they like having them at home .My youngest son at 26 is still at home ..but has a job and pays his way with the housekeeping etc.He can't afford to live on his own to be honest.Getting on the housing ladder is a nightmare for some youngsters nowdays.I am quite happy to have him here.He does all the odd DIY jobs that need doing ,mows the lawn for me and is very amenable to running us to Tescos now and again. He keeps his own quarters clean so he's no work really apart from washing and it's just as easy to cook for three as two. When he does go I shall miss him....and we are no spring chickens either !!
I think it's fair though that grown up children living at home who are fit and healthy and working should take responsibility for getting themselves to work,paying some housekeeping and mucking in with the chores.This is how we work and we have no problems.

[wolf63]

When I was about 22 my mother told me that she would not charge me board money if I put what I would have paid into the bank. She told me that she was doing this so that I would leave home, "and take that bl**dy dog with you" she said.

So the mutt and I was turfed out, I bought my first flat and that was that.

Since then the dog, my mum and my dad have all passed on. I miss my dog!