I have problems with sexual feelings.

[steve208]

The trouble is that i am either overcome by desire and really interested in sex or (and usually right afterwards) am completely not interested and cant stand the thought of it. Either after sex solo or with a girl then its the same i feel dirty and that sex is wrong, also afterwards i want to never do it again.

Are these extremes of feeling natural? And i feel that i am very often taken by desire when out, maybe its natural but i always look at women i like and wish...!

But i mean i know in some ways what i have said may seem a bit jokey but its not as i dont feel i can sustain a meaningful relationship due to this and other emotional problems.

[I-say]

How old are you Steve?

[steve208]

23.

[I-say]

I have read a few of your posts Steve. And NO you are not a nuisance. But you seem very young to have so many worries.

[natalie_1982]

Hi Steve
I suffered very similar feelings to those you are describing now and subsequently, due to other issues I had, spent two years seeing a counsellor. I would encourage you to speak with your counsellor about these feelings. I have to admit that still occassionally I have bouts of these feelings, but the counsellor can tell you how to cope, how to prevent it from recurring and what to do when you start feeling that way again.

I have not read any of your questions before, and I do not know your history, but I am the same age as you and I feel I know where you are coming from.

It shows that you are a mature and thoughtful person that you are trying to face your issues, and not just go out with someone and make them suffer for it. I would say that if you have a partner or a close friend then it would be helpful to talk with them about your counselling sessions, but this is not necessary and you may not feel comfortable doing so.

Best of luck Steve, everything will work out fine I promise - and if I see any more of your Q's on here then I will answer them if I can help x x x