lessons learned!!

[Gill 05]

Bad experiences in my past have made me very mistrustful, vulnerable and lacking in confidence.

How have events from your past made you the person you are today?

[angeldraws]

Events in peoples past do have these effects on you in later life......I will never trust my family again, due to total betrayal when i needed them most. Also, i used to worry my head off about what people thought of me, but now i know i am just as good as anyone - and I value and appreciate others more because i wasn't valued by those i needed (does that make sense). In addition to these things, i also accept that whilst i have my opinion about things, others may not agree but that doesnt make either one wrong, nor do ya have to try to persuade them to see your point.......very important life skills i feel......
How about you Gill....?

[Gill 05]

Hi angeldraws. My problems stem more from an abusive ex than anything else. But I suppose you live and learn eh.

[angeldraws]

So did mine, but i have worked my way thru them, and i'm not saying it's easy....sometimes you dont know where to start, and sometimes you dont know you're in a bad relationship till you get out of it, so you have my sympathy and i wish you luck because we all deserve better...... x

[Gill 05]

Thanks angeldraws :-) x

[what???]

I find it very very difficult to trust guys since being cheated on one, and even though no one else has cheated on me, I have to say my reluctance to trust has generally been proven to be justified. Even some of my closest male friends have not stuck by me when i needed them. It's sad but true and just validates my inability to trust men.

[Lore]

Once bitten, Twice shy and all that Gill, I find it hard to trust people. This comes from both a very strange and difficult upbringing followed by a very strange and difficult marriage! - Both of which I've moved on from and found myself in a place where I want to stay.
I still have days when I feel threatened, feel down and feel like it's all going to go belly up!

I guess you have to give a little of yourself if you want something back. There are some things in life you just can't let slip by, so make the effort to move on, call it a leap of faith if you will.
Just believe in yourself and know that you are strong enough to stand up to the things that are barriers to your happiness or choose to walk away.

I'm 'ard as nails I am! :oP
Actually I'm quite delicate, but only those who know me well get to see that side of me.

[saxy_jag]

They certainly have. A girl at school was the ringleader of a group who led me to believe that I was absolutely without worth or merit. Unfortunately I had the sort of parents who thought that you should accept such treatment in order to have a quiet life. I had zero self-confidence for many years after and believed no-one liked me.

It was only the love of a good man and a spell as a mature undergraduate that convinced me I was as good as anyone else.