Starting over

[salisbury]

About 5 months ago my 2 year relationship finished and i was devestated, im only just getting over it now thanks to going on holiday with two mates and blowing the cobwebs away.

I am a 24 yr od male and my ex was 21, the thing is my sisters best friend is gorgeous and i get on with her really well but theres a prob, i havent shown her im interested and also (she is still obssessed by an ex and i would feel in his shadow). my sister has said if i was a bit more muscular i would be perfect for her.

Should i just leave it, as i am obviously not up to her tatse, or should i take on a challenege and pursue her??

It could get messy what with it being my sisters best friend???

[spanner7853]

if you were more musculare you would be ideal for her????

So she's shallow then? If she doesnt like you for you then she's not worth knowing. Would you say 'hi your perfect would you mind bleaching your hair blond for me though'?

Also there are always impercussions of dating your sisters friends.

[4getmenot]

It will get messy. My brother went out with my best mate and then finished her, I no longer speak to my mate as when she started going out with my bro she stopped coming to see me even though she was at my brothers every weekend. Then as soon as he finished with her, she wanted to stay at mine and use me to get to my brother. When it came to my birthday party she promised That she wouldn�t cause any hassle with my brother and she came out and made a big deal about things and walked out, I didn�t let it ruin my night, then the next day she sent me an e-mail asking how things were I said I had a great night then she said �Oh don�t bother asking how I am will you� I havent spoken to her since because I wouldn�t take her side over my brothers and have her using me to get at him, plus she was a selfish b1tch. So to me going out with your sisters mate is a big no no. Its not fair on your sister as it will cause arguments. And for you to still be mentioning your ex in a question that didn�t need it you�re still not over it. As has been said before work on yourself but if you really feel the need to have a girlfriend go for someone new that isn�t part of you past or present that can be a part of you future.

[4getmenot]

Oh and just read 'still obsessed with an ex' I think that says it all. Find someone else

[spk]

Hi Salisbury, If you really like her then why not ask her out- all she can say is no. You have nothing to lose except for a temporary dent in your ego but it might be good for getting you back in the game. And if she knocks you back- her loss plenty more fish in the sea and all that !

[4getmenot]

spk would you really ask someone out that was obsessed with her ex? Plus salisbury is still obsessed with his you can tell by the having to tell us how old she was etc.

[spk]

Meant to say as well, my sister started seeing her best friends brother and they are all happy living together 5 years later so it can work :O)

[spk]

I guess not 4getmenot, probably best waiting until she is over her ex, but Im not saying he should go and declare undying love, I dont think going for a drink is a big drama, might be what they both need

[4getmenot]

yer could be, at least just to give it a try.

[Champagne]

There's nothing wrong with being single y'know.