turmoil

[wizzer]

my partner has just told me that they dont love me anymore. we have been together 5 years, they are my life we have 2 kids, I feel like someone has just stuck a knife in my heart, I have never felt pain like it, Its like someone has just ripped my heart into two. My life consists of my family and now its been ripped apart that i dont know what to do, They have just gone to work and i have to carry on as normal infront of the kids. I dont know how i'm gonna cope. I gave up my family for this person. I now have no-one They will take the kids and I will move out.

[PinkFizz]

Okey dokey,only me in the dark then lol

Awful way to tell you either way - is there no possibility of sorting it do you think? Did you have no idea she felt this way?

[unruliejulie]

B00, i agree, it is not something you can leave someone with, with no proper talking. Awful. You are just left in limbo.

My hubby's ex-wife phoned him whilst he was at work and said, just ringing to tell you, i won't be here when you get home cause i've left you! There was nothing he could do because he was at work! Still, she did him a favour! :-)

Not all of us though 4getmenot, ( i know you were only joking) i could never do that, not without talking it all over first, its cruel and nasty, especially when kids are involved..

[raysparx1]

Wizzer,

I can't offer any words of wisdom, but I feel for you,I really do,this is an awfull situation to be in, I hope you can work things out, I know people will say you gotta be strong for the kids,but not that easy is it, take care wizzer, you got a lot of people on here if you need to talk, Ray

[sleepyj]

hi yes i am new on here just found the site last week lots off good stuff on here

[ummmm]

God bless you wizzer.

Stay strong xxxxxx

[sleepyj]

if it helps wizzer im single wink wink lol

[wizzer]

i thank you all for your kind comments. I am a regular on here i know some know who i am and the others are not sure, I had a bad few weeks on here. I recieved a txt from her saying that she wants me to write all the good things and bad things about our relationship and we can discuss them 2morrow, So theeir may be a glimmer of hope?
It's so hard to not let the kids see me crying. there off 2 bed soon. Again i thank you so so much. You give me Faith and hope when it feels like its the end of the world.

[wizzer]

pinky want any cola cubes?

[sleepyj]

let us know how u get on good luck

[unruliejulie]

wizzer, there is a long way to go but its a start! Talk, talk and more talk and hopefully things can be sorted out. I wish you all the very best but you already know that! xxx

[Hellion]

Sorry, I haven't worked out who you are Wizzer but I am sorry for your situation.
I'm not sure I can offer you any advice other than to say that sometimes hurtful painful things can be said by someone who is angry/fed up at their life in general, or someone under stress at work or at home, or both. Sometimes someone feeling that life has lost all it's fun will lash out in a seemingly cruel way at their partner, it does not always mean that they really believe what they are saying.
You say you don't think anyone else is involved.
Have your lives together become humdrum, could she be feeling that work and looking after two young kids is not waht she signed up for? Has the 'shine' gone out of your relationship - it may be that it's not that she doesn't love you but no longer feels 'in love' with you.

Relationships often go through awful rough patches like this, especially as relationships change i.e settling into a life with kids, work etc. I'm hoping for your sake that it may be this that is what is happening - as it is salvageable - get someone to have the kids and woo her like crazy - weekend away together just allowing her to be her not partner and Mum.

Don't give up yet Wizzer this is not your fault either way, if you want her and love her make sure she knows that - it might be all she needs. Fight for her.

Hugs and kisses to you
xx

[haywood]

awww cheer up mate its strange to hear a bloke in this situation!! you have as much right in the kids as she does so dont just assume that she can take them.you must be strong as hard as it seems if you're kids mean as much as you say they do then fight all the way for them if you cant fight for the relationship! here's a big hug {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{XXXX}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[Hellion]

Wizzer sorry you posted since I started writing - having read what you said I really do believe you can get through this.
Almost anyone who has had a long relationship will tell you that they still love their partner madly but the love is not necessarily the same 'in love' intensity as the begining of a relationship, it settles down in to a mixture of trust, love, mutual respect, pride and as Mr Hellion and I always say ''our backs to the wall against the rest of the world'.
Perhaps both of you have 'disappeared' in just being parents for the last 5 years. Time to rediscover and reinvent yourselves!
Go for it Wizzer
XX

[unruliejulie]

Hellion, what a fantastic couple of posts you made! Every bit makes total sense!

[lulu85]

oh dear, poor you!!! can you not ring your family and ask for their support? surely they will understand that you wanted this person and in being with this person you made a wrong choice? after all, blood is thicker than water. I also think that you should try and think positivly and not negatively, if this person is so cold hearted to do something like this, you are better off without them!! move out and move on and rebuild your life without her! i know that reading this, you may be thinking thats not what you want and i sound harsh, but once you have got over it, you will read this again and feel happy inside that you have managed it. It may take time and right now you feel as though your wrold has ended, but use it as a chance to start a fresh, rather than worry and go on a downward spiral. xxxxx big hugs xxxx

[Hellion]

Come on Lulu it's not over yet! I find it a bit sad that so many people have advised Wizzer to move on and get over it - may be that's why so many relationships fail, everyone gives up at the first hurdle, Wizzer I'm sure is made of sterner stuff. It ain't over 'til it's over - THEN is the time to get over it and move on.

[lulu85]

ah, sorry, didnt realise there was all those other pages, so sorry if my response it a bit muddled!!! Im new here too! I think from what I have read and not knowing your other identity or problems, I would suggest it is a cry for help rather than an end to the relationship. xxx more, even bigger hugs!! xxxx

[joby1]

ok then!

[Hellion]

Sorry Lulu I wasn't having a go, just trying to be optimistic.

[wizzer]

thank you so much everyone