Am I being unreasonable?

[warpig1]

Ok story is that I am getting engaged shortly and my partner lives in Scotland so I will be selling my flat and moving over to be with him. He has a small house in scotland which I love and I look on it as ours although I realise that it is not mine but it will be the first place we have shared together. Anyway ,his sister is over this week and she can be quite a pushy, forcefull, donineering person and knowing what she is like I specifically requested that she should not be allowed to make any adjustments to the house ie painting and decorating. He texted me last night to say that they had been in B&Q to buy paint as she wanted to paint a room. My nose is severely put out of joint as I consider this as OUR house even though I reaise that it is his house.

Just for information, she does not know that we will be getting engaged soon, therefore doesn't know that she is stepping on my toes, and her taste in decor is impeccable, so surely I should be grateful? I know it is not her fault but I did tell him that I didn't want this scenario to happen. What should I do.. Am miffed on the one hand but feel guilty for being ungrateful...

Help please.

Thabnks
warpig1

[lindapinda]

Pure coincidence,but my niece is leaving this evening,to start work in Edinburgh!

[Octavius]

I don�t think you are being unreasonable as such, but I do think you should be taking issue with your boyfriend and not his sister. If she doesn�t know that you are getting engaged, then is it quite likely that she doesn�t even know that you will be moving in?

I would let this one time slide after all a new paint job isn't all that bad � you can always redecorate to your own taste, once you move in and set up home together then she should not interfere and maybe your boyfriend � or fianc� as he will be by then � might have grown a spine.

[warpig1]

thank you all, wise words from Octavius as always, i appreciate all your answers and know that you know that I am in kind of in a weird place. I know that ultimately I will make up my own mind but thank you loads for your help. will keep you posted., wish you good health and everything else that goes along with:-o)


love
warpi1

[jedimistress]

Accept there is nothing you can do about it and try to relax. Some things come along now and then which bug us, but they soon become yesterdays news as I am sure this will. It's not a great disaster or the end of the world. Perhaps you are feeling stressed by other things and easily irked but if you look at the big picture it isn't so bad really. It'll seem alright tomorrow. Just one of those little annoyances which should go away quite quickly.

Sometimes we can become stressed by other life events & become more easily irritated by lesser problems, the bigger problems manifesting themselves this way. Your partner may well have remembered what you said about the decorating but felt steamrolled too.

And so on...take care.

[warpig1]

thank you jedimistress, not to take away from anyone .

warpig1
xoxo

[4getmenot]

so where does she live?

[warpig1]

Outside Dublin, would happily give address but she will find me and hunt me down!!!

[4getmenot]

Its ok I just popped on a plane from Norwich direct and found her, so what colour would you like me to do the bathroom? and I hope you like them toilet roll doll covers

[warpig1]

Don't care what colour, I croquet (sp) them myself. Any colour as long as she doesn't really like it is good. Who is the b1tch now. This is what I have been reducd to!!!