Men

[Miss-read]

If you are a loving caring loyal woman. Do men take that for granted?

[raysparx1]

Some of us blokes are loving,caring & loyal as well, are we taken for granted ?

We all take each other for granted to a certain extent,but the thing is to realise,apologise and try not to,but it really is a two way thing.

[laurence2]

Yes,i believe ex-amount of men would take advantage.

But i also believe that ex-amount of women like to be in this situation.

I also believe that ex-amount of women take advantage of men.

Some people are ''just made'' for each other, what i mean by that is, the people women & men that are otherwise known as ''Door mats''

My brothers wife will have his dinner on the table at the same time of the day etc, she'll do this, do that, and he hasen't got to lift a finger, this i thought was my brother taking advantage, but oh no, she believes ''ALL WOMEN'' have a duty to do this to there husbands/partners, i would'nt want a woman who thinks like this, its share and share alike with me

[havinmysay]

iv been known to be ''to nice'' and i cant get a decent man

[Carakeel]

My past experiences would make me believe that men do take loving, caring women for granted. However, for the past 20 months or so I have been sharing my life with an extremely caring, loving man who has shown me that there are some intelligent, caring men who don't. Maybe it is because my partner and I have both been through some very traumatic times in our lives that we so appreciate what we have found in each other. And maybe I have learned the hard way to stay well away from men who are incapable of being equally giving, respectful and loving partners in a relationship. I can tell you that there are several lovely men on the AB who do NOT take their partners for granted, among them RATTER and noxlumos, who are very open about the appreciation they have for their partners.

So Miss-read, men who take their caring, loyal and loving women for granted, need a severe wake-up call and if that doesn't work, they need to be chucked out! The same goes for women who do not appreciate their men. Remember, we only have one life and we all deserve to be happy, loved and appreciated. Best wishes to you. :o)

[raysparx1]

Carakeel, you have got it spot on,could not agree more.

[Carakeel]

Well ray, it is guys like you, RATTER and Nox who have restored my faith in men. And for that I am so grateful. I spent 20 years on my own because I had lost all faith and trust in men, my fist husband having been a total control freak and a physical and mental bully and my second walking out on me when I was diagnosed with cancer, saying that he "loved me too much to watch me die". Never quite figured that remark out! Lol :o)

[Champagne]

In my experience, more often than not, yes. :o(

[JustSia]

It takes 2. One to take you for granted the other to let you. Now I am not generalising but the problem with some caring/loving people is that they go into the relationship selflessly not expecting much in return only realising after that they might be missing out on things. This is when the problems start.

The thing is some men/women just don't know any better and they certainly ain't psychic to know what your expectations are in the relationship. And deep down we all have expectations. I learned the hard way that unless you are open and straight forward right from the start and not half way through the relationship when things are not working you are fooling yourself and your partner.

[chicklin]

Being loving and caring is good but don't be a doormat or they'll walk all over you.

[raysparx1]

Carakeel,

your second hubby was just a coward,when my wife was diagnosed with Cancer, I just wanted to cuddle her and take the hurt for her,but you can't do that. so we got throught it together,well really she was braver than me, I am so glad that you have now found true happiness xx

[Roughquest]

Im always loving and caring - I have been brought up this way, and also brought up to cook,clean etc for the man in my life (whoever he may be - elusive as always Mr Minter) and Ive not thought anything of it regardless if I work full time also, but having said that men have taken advantage of this and my last husband was living proof of that - he just thought he was the only one that worked in our relationship and the one the worked hardest so he felt he shouldnt have to do housework/laundry etc which made me feel rather 'slave' like in the end.

RQ :( x

[ummmm]

I think we all take each other for granted...men and women alike. He takes it for granted that I cook I take it for granted that he takes the bin bags out

[Carakeel]

Thanks ray, you're a darling. xx I am so delighted to hear that your wife and you stood together and won her battle against cancer. I know that, unlike my past husbands, my present partner would do the same as you. I have two major ops coming up, so knowing my partner is supporting me with his love means all the difference. :o)

[Carakeel]

sorry, that should have been ... makes all the difference.

[Miss-read]

Thank you all for your replies. I know that women take men for granted to. So sorry if it seemed like I was having a pop at men. Carakeel, thanks for your advice. x