does this happen in other fitting rooms?!

[missjef]

I get really annoyed by the amount of mothers that come into the fitting room, try on clothes & just ignore their screaming baby! Today a lady came in with a baby of only probably a couple months old, the baby started to scream & she just ignored it completely and just carried on trying on her clothes!
This happens all the time in our fitting rooms, the other week a mother came in with her mother, and a baby, the lady tried on her clothes the baby started crying & screaming & the mother just told her daughter to ignore her!! So she just carried on parading herself in front of the mirror just completely ignoring her little baby in the pram!!
is it just me or is this wrong?

[redcrx]

It depends on the why the baby is crying. if a baby is crying for food or because its ill or uncomfortable then yes its wrong to leave it to cry. it also depends on the age of the child. A tiny baby should not be left to cry where perhaps an older toddler just throwing a tantrum should no always be pandered to as this creates more problems down the line.
Mums do need to get things done at times and its not always practical to pick the baby up and placate it. For me, I dont think clothes shopping comes under a list of 'must dos' tho.

[missjef]

it's never toddlers though, that i could understand if they were throwing a tantrum, but these are little babies in prams, and i just hate to see little babies cry for like 10 minutes especially just seeing the mother ignore them!!

[redcrx]

if its tiny babies then it would be awful to listen to. Maybe they are hot, wrapped up warm and their clothes arent loosened when mum goes into the shop. Of course some do cry for reasons that cant be helped when away from home, colic is one, reflux is another and the parent cant help.
Maybe next time you could just catch the mums eye and ask if maybe the heating is too warm for baby. Be polite rather than accusing and most mums will be nice back.
Dont suggest that you ever know whats best for a child if not prepared to suffer the wrath of the mother, especially one who may be suffering from sleep deprivation :)

[yinyang]

My best friend has a liitle boy who for the first few months sc reamed as soon as she put him down but as she had another child, a part time job and a husband and home she just couldn't carry him 24/7.
One day when she was out with the kids, the older one wanted a drink so they went to a cafe, and as my friend realised she hadn't eaten anything all day she put the baby back in the pram to have a welll earned cuppa. of course he started straight away and she said she felt so mortified by the disapproving glances she got off people that she two quick gulps before hoisting the baby back into her arms.
As redcrx said, sometimes mums have to just get on with things. i know it can be distressing hearing a baby screaming but remember you're just seeing a very small part of their lifes. There's a good chance the crying is breaking the mums heart too.

Of course, some woman are just selfish so and so's who resent the fact that the baby needs attention when they have to find a new outfit for their night out!

[prattler]

she's obviously more concerned about being a 'yummy mummy' than a 'mummy'! cancel her subscription to Cosmo this instant!!

[Dassie]

I get really annoyed by the amount of mother's that go shopping with prams, especially the double ones, and then block the shopping ailses, doorways etc so no one else can get past. Never mind the noise from the kid!

[sheribee]

Well as a mum of 2 lovely little girls, 3 yrs and 7 yrs, i kno all about shopping with babies etc... and... please stop and think, all these people that start moaning because we are out in the shops with our pushchairs and screaming kids.. for a start, do u have any idea how hard it is to even get out of the house to go shopping, all the crap u have to get ready and carry around with you, let alone attempting to make urself look remotely normal and sane on 3 hrs sleep. We mums still need clothes and toiletries, along with wipes nappies and talc, and it is extreamly difficult to get round with the pushchairs especially into shops and fitting rooms that are not designed for this, even tho a large majority of their customers have small kids.
I am 26, and i like to look good now, i didnt tho, going out was too much hassle, when i did people didnt open doors or move out the way when i was walking through the mall... how ignorant!!! So... i am sorry but, babies are most prob left to scream in their prams as their mums know exactly why the baby is crying.. instinct and all... and kno there is nothing much up, maybe just wants the pram moving again so it can go back to sleep, as babies do this.
spare a thought for the mum... she is doing her best, and doesnt need people judging her as she has a crying baby, or a double pushchair in the aisle... get over it!!! and if you dont like the baby crying, offer to rock the pram, im sure mum would really appreciate it!! i would!!! and if the pushchair is in the way, smile at her and just say excuse me nicely and she will move it!! Mums are doing their best, and dont need people judging them just because of the situation they appear to be in.. its hard work.. help them dont just stand there. x

[Dassie]

Sheribee..... so people didn't "move out the way when I was walking through the mall" ...ag shame.

Now... who is the person causing the obstruction here? not the day to day person shopping but YOU ! I'm tired of having prams just pushed into me, run over my toe. Why must I ask for the pram to be moved? It should not be blocking the way in the first place......a bit like blocking the road with your car so no-one else can get through.

This is the problem, mothers expect everybody to bow to their needs as evidenced by your comments. I have no wish to rock somebody else's pram thank you. If it's such a problem then why don't you just get a baby sitter or don't have babies in the first place if you can't handle the situation?

[redcrx]

Dassie, have you got any children? There is a vast difference between those few parents (dads as well as mums) who use their pushers as a means to get past people and those (the majority) who are courteous and polite when they have to contend with the masses on the footpaths and aisles of stores.
Personally ive always found dithering families who suddenly stop in front of me when walking around a store or chat to their friends and take up a whole aisle more annoying than those with pushchairs and this was for years before i had a child.
I think its more to do with the person you are, either polite or ignorant, as to whether you care what you do with your pushchair. pretty much like driving a car really, you get the prats that cut you up on a main road and those that are nice enough to let you pass or come out of a junction. Everyone is different so please just take a fresh look before you make sweeping statements like 'mothers expect everyone to bow to thier needs'.

[Dassie]

redcrx........In taking a "fresh look" I didn't make a sweeping statement at all, I said Sheribee's ideas of getting out of her way, helping her out etc were an indication of how she and therefore probably other mothers think "as evidenced by her comments" and yes I do have a daughter.

You are quite right about the ditherers. Can't stand them either! Also what happened to the "stand on the right, walk on the left" rule on escalators. Nowadays it's stand next to one another and chat!

Perhaps shopping malls should start having a highway code?