sex!!!

[havinmysay]

do u think its wrong for 2 single people who find eachother attractive to just have sex ?

[Mr Tall]

http://www.gumtree.com/london_casual_relations hips.html


Have a look here happens all the time

[Matheous]

Don't know why nobody mentioned protection or contraception? Safer to go solo ! (although much less fun! )

[larkin]

Fine in my books - best not in the post office or marks and spencers. might upset a few people !

[noxlumos]

Assuming "safe sex" applies, there is nothing wrong whatsoever in recreational sex, it's just a feelgood thing to do. There is a HUGE difference between having casual sex with an attractive near stranger and making love to someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Doing the former in no way negates the latter when it happens, as they are two completely different experiences.
Do it, enjoy it. Nothing wrong at all.

[havinmysay]

thanks i didn't want to seem really slaggy we are both attracted to eachother but neither of us want a relationship

[curlylfim]

i have no problem with it at all, go for it, it will make you smile......

that is............
unless you are closely related

oh and over the age of consent

[joko]

I didn't mean that only religious people would have an issue with this, i am talking about what religion - over the centuries - has done to our perception of what sex is all about.

we are, no matter how subconsciously, brought up to think sex is dirty - some have this rammed down their throats and others feel it from the disdain and disapproval of others - especially when it comes from the double standards and attitudes towards women who happen to like sex.
many people react to this kind of thing - the notion of previous partners or what is 'right and wrong', but they don't even know why, they just have an issue with something - that is how ingrained it is our psyches - and its also why havingmysay says "she didn't want to appear slaggy"

how many men would come on here with a similar worry?

[whiffey]

Recreational sex ?

Ye gods, I think I'll bow out of this one, condoms or no condoms. It's all about lying very very close to someone, naked, giving yourself, being loved and accepted.

Not in 2007 however !!

When you meet your true lover you can say "I've stuck my todger up 23 girls so far" or "I've taken off my clothes and opened my legs to 23 men so far" - but YOU are special.

Easy convincing.

[joko]

sex isn't some holy grail!!

these are just bodies, why make them into something dirty just because they enjoy something that ALL animals do naturally? - and yes, we are just animals.

it is also very different from making love


like i said, it is religion that makes some people think it is much more than it actually is.

[whiffey]

No joko, sex is not a holy grail, and thanks to you, could well be on sale in supermarkets soon.

So it is different from making love ? You poor fool.

Knobbing, that's what it's all about, advanced 21st century thinking. Shag away. Forget the person, it's only a bit of fun.

[joko]

i think you'll find you are in the minority here, but its great that you think you are so special.

[whiffey]

I feel suitably humiliated. Wonderful 2007 isn't it, when society can say "go out and have sex, no probs, be sure to wear a condom though"

I am happy to be in the minority here, joko.

[alijangra]

Im old fashioned when it comes to this subject. I know girls who regularly cop off with guys they meet on nights out, in fact its the sole purpose of why they go out! Not wanting relationships, just casual sex and possibly forgeting the guys name in the morning. They think its a great laugh, I think its vile and I sniggered quietly to myself when one of them disclosed quite matter-of-factly that 'some dirty swine' had given her chlamydia. Condoms are also not 100% safe and many things such as crabs and warts can be passed on even with condom use, so those who think its safe to sleep around are totally kidding themselves. I would only ever sleep with someone I know and totally trust.
The only reason STD's are on the up is because it is becoming more socially acceptable to sleep with whoever takes your fancy.
So no, there is nothing wrong with 2 consenting adults having meaningless sex as long as they are accepting of the risks and responsibilities involved.

[RATTER15]

I'm happy to be in the minority as well!!

I don't think sex is any Holy Grail but it is something special to share with someone very special.

I wouldn't want to put mine somewhere that has had more pricks than a second hand dartboard.

[Theland]

Sex without love is devalued. With love, sex is special, a gift to be given and received.
Yes, there are plenty of religious people who hold a perverted view of sex, maybe even to putting trousers on the piano legs for the sake of "modesty" but that should not cloud the genuine Christian view of sex, which is very liberating, and considers us to be far above the animals.

[sair5412]

I think this is up to the 2 people involved and nobody else. If the 2 people are both happy with the situation, then nobody elses opinions should count! After all, it's only going to be the 2 of you in bed together (i assume!)

[joko]

the issue here isn't safe sex - just because someone wants to have sex a lot doesn't make them careless with STDs - its about whether it is bad to have casual sex for fun - and majority of people seem to think its fine.

the safe sex issue is a given

[notfrom-oz]

is it with each other?if so that should be fine but if they they are both attractive and then go on a random rampage of sex then i think that could be a little unfair to the ...innocents i think i shall name them that get caught in the cross fire.
just something to think about

[sair5412]

I agree with you Joko. Seems people are missing the point a bit. I assume havinmysay would be having safe sex with her chosen one anyway. As most sensible people do. I did it recently having come out of a relationship. I have my basic human needs as did a male friend of mine! We decided that we respected each other and both wanted casual sex, not a relationship, yet did not want to sleep around. We "used" each other for our own causes and were careful and did not sleep with any others during our "time together". I do not see it as a problem. Sex and making love are seperate. As long as people are sensible and still respect themselves and their partner in crime (ha ha!), then I do not see the problem.

[Tha-Flash]

No, just do it!