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pregnant at 17!
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im 17 and 8 weeks pregnant.
i want to keep it but i have doubts now and then about having a abortion because the babys father isnt around and i dont have a job or anything but i do have a really surportive family.but they just say its your choice,which is the only thing they can say really has anyone else had trouble trying to decide this? and what did you do?
i want to keep it but i have doubts now and then about having a abortion because the babys father isnt around and i dont have a job or anything but i do have a really surportive family.but they just say its your choice,which is the only thing they can say really has anyone else had trouble trying to decide this? and what did you do?
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I completely understand what you're saying but you're also being very stereotypical...
I've recently been in this situation myself so i understand and sympathise with 'prenant-s'' situation.
Not all young women that fall pregnant have alcohol and drunken sex to blame! not all young mothers shop at bloody Liddles!
Mistakes happen and i admire the young women that take repsonsibility of a child and bring them up, instead of calling for an abortion at the drop of hat!
I've recently been in this situation myself so i understand and sympathise with 'prenant-s'' situation.
Not all young women that fall pregnant have alcohol and drunken sex to blame! not all young mothers shop at bloody Liddles!
Mistakes happen and i admire the young women that take repsonsibility of a child and bring them up, instead of calling for an abortion at the drop of hat!
sorry nat, i mistakenly thought this was the post of hers that id replied to this morning. here it is and in that she did ask what she should do. http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Family/Pregnanc y/Question364133.html
so although this is the wrong post the request was made for our opinions.
so although this is the wrong post the request was made for our opinions.
Too right nat, I admit being stereotypical but from the limited information I have, I have made educated assumptions.
{my family} "just say it is your {her} choice". Is that support? Methinks not. It is a non-committal way of not being asked.
Enjoy your childhood and teenage years. Do not be tied to a baby without a father or any decent moral code.
I am fairly comfortably off. However, even I could not afford a child the way I would want him brought up.
{my family} "just say it is your {her} choice". Is that support? Methinks not. It is a non-committal way of not being asked.
Enjoy your childhood and teenage years. Do not be tied to a baby without a father or any decent moral code.
I am fairly comfortably off. However, even I could not afford a child the way I would want him brought up.
yeah i've seen that one redcrx.
I think there's a safenees and sense of security when asking for people's opinion in the Pregnancy forum unlike Body and Soul. Usually people that view that topic have experience in that department possibly hence the reason she asked for opinions there...? To avoid harsh responses from Joe and those alike.
I for one didnt announce i was pregnant in body and soul for the reason i give above (safeness and security of those alike).
Anyway i do see and do know people of Joe's mindlike and therefore understand the response - but i still think it was very stereotypical and harsh...IMO...obviously! lol.
I think there's a safenees and sense of security when asking for people's opinion in the Pregnancy forum unlike Body and Soul. Usually people that view that topic have experience in that department possibly hence the reason she asked for opinions there...? To avoid harsh responses from Joe and those alike.
I for one didnt announce i was pregnant in body and soul for the reason i give above (safeness and security of those alike).
Anyway i do see and do know people of Joe's mindlike and therefore understand the response - but i still think it was very stereotypical and harsh...IMO...obviously! lol.
lol nat, Im sure we all know that no every pregnant teenager is the stereotypical one we see on 'little britain., or at least I hope not.
I agree that some of Joes response may have been a bit too blunt for some but they werent completely without thought.
Sometimes a woman has to see every side of a situation before she can make the right decision for her. For instance we could tell her to have the baby as she will always get benefits and never have to work. 3 years down the line she may have realised that all her money goes towards food and heat and she has little education and chance of getting a job to afford luxuries like a holiday or new clothes for her child, who would be at fault for painting such a rosy picture of her future? I sure pregnant-s would not make her decision soley on the handful of answers she receives on here, although this thread gave some reasons why she may want to consider the alternatives
I agree that some of Joes response may have been a bit too blunt for some but they werent completely without thought.
Sometimes a woman has to see every side of a situation before she can make the right decision for her. For instance we could tell her to have the baby as she will always get benefits and never have to work. 3 years down the line she may have realised that all her money goes towards food and heat and she has little education and chance of getting a job to afford luxuries like a holiday or new clothes for her child, who would be at fault for painting such a rosy picture of her future? I sure pregnant-s would not make her decision soley on the handful of answers she receives on here, although this thread gave some reasons why she may want to consider the alternatives
This is this pregnant-s on a different accont..i want to just say thanks for every1's messgae but one person who has got me competlly wrong is joe the lion.you dont no me,i am intellegent,i did learn about sex education but have u ever herd of a comdom spliting? and i was with my boyfriend for a year it wasnt just a drunken thing in the back of a car.my family are really surportive and they are right to give me the choice of chosen what to do .not just force me to get rid or keep.I dont wear jelwarry,hair tight back and fake sports wear.you have totally judged me without even talking to me! not every seventeen year old that gets pregnant is the same you know!
i no i made loads of spelling mistakes in the last post.and you may just think im a stupid little girl who goes and shags any1 but i am not like that.i lost my virginity to the father of my baby and i loved him,he only just left me resentlly.please do not judge me joe-the-lion before u actually ask if these things u think i wear and how i live are true
I agree, redcrx ~ Joe's reply may well be extreme, but all matters need to be considered...I certainly wouldn't want to be a pregnant 17 year old with no job or partner.
In fact I had a termination when I was single (albeit a 25 year old) as I suddenly had no partner, no income & my accomodation was iffy. I didn't want to bring another child into that. My circumstances have changed for the better since then, but don't regret my decision one jot.
In fact I had a termination when I was single (albeit a 25 year old) as I suddenly had no partner, no income & my accomodation was iffy. I didn't want to bring another child into that. My circumstances have changed for the better since then, but don't regret my decision one jot.
well it must have otherwise i wouldnt be pregnant!!!
i used one everytime
i no you may just be tryin to help but no offence but you dont no what its like to have to make this kind of decition.your basically just telling me to have a abortion wen really its not up to u i asked what ppl have done in my situation u havent been in my situation so u reli crnt help
and your just annoying me.first you said i was a cheap slag with no brains (in so many words) now your calling me a liar
i used one everytime
i no you may just be tryin to help but no offence but you dont no what its like to have to make this kind of decition.your basically just telling me to have a abortion wen really its not up to u i asked what ppl have done in my situation u havent been in my situation so u reli crnt help
and your just annoying me.first you said i was a cheap slag with no brains (in so many words) now your calling me a liar
Pregnant-s - This is only a decision that you can make as you know your own circumstances better than anyone else. I found myself in the same situation at 17. I decided to go ahead and have my baby. Admittedly I had great support from my family in the early years. However, I also worked! Eventually I started my own business that could fit in around my son. My son has recently finished university and has secured himself a wonderful job. If I could turn back the clock I would change many things in my life but I would never change the decision to have my son. Don't get me wrong though, it certainly hasn't been easy!
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
I have in no incarnation called you a cheap slag. If that is what you think, then clearly the seed of doubt must have entered your thought process.
I have also not referred to you having no brains. I purposely placed academic in quotation marks which to anybody else means I accept that this is only one way of measuring intellectual success. I, for example, can not decorate and would struggle with any basic mechanical engineering. Many people can undertake such tasks (and greater ones) with ease but would struggle to complete "The Sun's" daily crossword!!!
However, as you seem closed minded I give you 100 percent support in your decision to go ahead with whatever. It appears you actually want this and if somebody did actually suggest an abortion is the best option I am certain you will dismiss it aswell.
I am just telling you how it is. Your life and that of little Britney, will be blighted with poverty, classness, council properties, benefits and more than likely crime.
If I sound harsh look at the statisitics. Without even looking them up, I strongly envisage that prison population has a huge percentage of children from households such as yours will be. University graduates come from a more stable background. Doctors, lawyers, dentists, vets, army officers, accountants etc etc etc on the whole come from half decent stock. Whilst children born to single 17 year old girls with little formal education tend to be on the dole or work in Tesco's.
Yes, there are thousands of exceptions to my perceived bigottry but at the same time there are millions of children in the UK.
I have also not referred to you having no brains. I purposely placed academic in quotation marks which to anybody else means I accept that this is only one way of measuring intellectual success. I, for example, can not decorate and would struggle with any basic mechanical engineering. Many people can undertake such tasks (and greater ones) with ease but would struggle to complete "The Sun's" daily crossword!!!
However, as you seem closed minded I give you 100 percent support in your decision to go ahead with whatever. It appears you actually want this and if somebody did actually suggest an abortion is the best option I am certain you will dismiss it aswell.
I am just telling you how it is. Your life and that of little Britney, will be blighted with poverty, classness, council properties, benefits and more than likely crime.
If I sound harsh look at the statisitics. Without even looking them up, I strongly envisage that prison population has a huge percentage of children from households such as yours will be. University graduates come from a more stable background. Doctors, lawyers, dentists, vets, army officers, accountants etc etc etc on the whole come from half decent stock. Whilst children born to single 17 year old girls with little formal education tend to be on the dole or work in Tesco's.
Yes, there are thousands of exceptions to my perceived bigottry but at the same time there are millions of children in the UK.
cont..........
If your social need to have kids is so great, all I am saying is to give him or her a half decent chance in life, wait until you are a little older, a little wiser, a little more settled, a little more educated and in a stable relationship before your decision is made.
Otherwise, you and Britney are doomed to fail and I, for one, abhor paying for wasters and benefit sponging single parent mums who were too blighted by viewing Sarah Platt as a role model.
If your social need to have kids is so great, all I am saying is to give him or her a half decent chance in life, wait until you are a little older, a little wiser, a little more settled, a little more educated and in a stable relationship before your decision is made.
Otherwise, you and Britney are doomed to fail and I, for one, abhor paying for wasters and benefit sponging single parent mums who were too blighted by viewing Sarah Platt as a role model.
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