Living together suggestions

[Miss Inquiry]

Me and b/f have decided to move in together, we each have our own houses, but he will rent his out and move in with me. We are blisfully happy so I am not worried about the actual day to day living together teething problems, I am a little worried though that it will still feel like my house not OUR house when he moves in. Do you have any suggestions for trying to make him feel more like it's equally his home too. Any advice/suggestions would be really usefull.

[Pippa68]

I know when I moved in with Mr P I struggled with the thought that it wasn't my home..even after re decorating and adding my own personal touches!

It may well be different for men & women ~ as far as he was concerned it was our home..however after 9 months we moved out and got a place we had both chosen..lol.

I guess it all depends on history too. He had shared the place with his ex wife, so that was on my mind quite a bit too! your b/f may be fine and settle in with no problems. Ask him if he is ok with the decor, furniture etc. Will he be bringing some of his furniture? I think re decorating together is a good idea, if he is into that kind of thing..it can be fun to choose colours/wallpaper together ~ however if he isn't bothered about any of that it may cause arguments!

Good luck & congratulations :o)

[warpig1]

Think it is different for girls and boys, mrinquiry will probably fit right in and not give it a thought, but if you want to make him more at home,, make sure he pays half the bills and cleans the toilte!!!

Seriously, though, you will be fine, good luck and happy co-habiting.

warpig1 x

[bounceagain]

Congs, maybe buying a double bed might be easy for both of you.

[winny]

Mr W and I did the same. I had always lived in the house alone so there were no ex things hanging around. He bought all his own tvs etc cus they were better than mine and we chose new wall paper together (it needed doing anyway). I agreed to put some nasty plates of his on the wall and bits like that. He always said it felt like our house but the fact he came home to his tea and bed was enough. He is a man of simple tastes (except for his choice of wife where he demanded only the best).
Keep the communication channels open and you will be fine. Enjoy.

[Shannon07]

Can you not give him a room for him - a study or a games room depending on his age? Just by acknowleding to him that you want it to be 'our house' will make him feel comfortable. Ask him how he would like to make it more equal to him also?

[skyep]

Miss - Why not plan to redecorate the house & include him in everything, ask for his suggestions. Make him a special celebratory meal. All the best to you both :0)

[Neutron]

Miss Inquiry, make sure you allow your boyfriend to pay half of all the bills and expenses, then he'll feel right at home!
I'm not joking. My daughter had her b.f. move into her home but would not let him pay for anything and their romance didn't last long. I guess he felt she was too much 'in control' or something like that.
Anyway, best of luck to you both, have a happy life.

[dot.hawkes]

the clincher will be to get him to sign up to join AB, then he will feel right at home and you won't be neglecting him when u are online cos he can join in lol