feel gutted

[Trinny]

I posted on AB about my boyfriend, calling time on our relationship, as he decided he wants to be a free spirt! He rang me last week, and during conversation he let me know that he has registered himself on to on-line dating! And has been out with someone. He told me they kissed. But he kept thinking about me, so he wouldnt see her again.

What I cant absorb is (1) how can he move on so quick? (2) why tell me? When he knew that I still love him?

[ELVIS68]

Play him at his own game then see what he has to say

[samuel23]

Hi Trinny, please don't think I'm being uncaring here, but as a bloke I feel i can answer with some authority
1. He was probably thinking about this for some time before he told you, so in his mind he wasn't moving on that quickly.
2. He is a git

He probably said that because either she blew him out and he's too macho to admit it or he thinks if he strings you along he may still be able to get you into bed if nothing else crops up.

Forget him and find someone worthy of you

[curlyperm]

hi trinny all sympathy with you........... blokes do tend to move on more quickly? god alone knows why? i agree with samuel, (thought you were female?...soz) play him at his own game...the loser x

[lindapinda]

I think Samuel said it all there Trinny...I know it's awful for you,but,you know yourself that you deserve better.

[lindapinda]

snap curly!

[curlyperm]

hey lindapinda shouldnt you be in bed?? lol me.. just watchin 'the bill (saddo) on freeview ; (

[Trinny]

samuel123. I think you are (sadly) spot on.

Curlyperm (sorry dont know if you are m/f) yes he has certainly moved on bloody quick.

Lindapinda, i dont know what to think anymore

[curlyfilm]

it could be reverse pyhscology, but i doubt it, just be glad that you had a lucky escape sooner rather than later...learn from your mistakes, but if you are like the rest of us, you probably wont.........

[Trinny]

could be Curlyfilm. Over the 3 years I was with him. He played what I would politely call mind games. I just feel so rejected and so easily replaced.

[lindapinda]

Trinny..certain males and females like to play the game when they date..You..to your credit..are honest about how you feel.You will meet someone who deserves you!!

[curlyfilm]

sometimes people play game too see how much their partner loves them, its a sort of if i tell her i'm seeing someone else, lets see if she makes a fuss and begs to have me back, if you see what i mean, its just their insecurities, they need too feel wanted, so play mind games
if that makes sense
but even if that is the case, believe me, you are much better off, consider it an escape, it would have never of stopped, so look on the plus side, you are better of now..

[Trinny]

Linda, and Curly. Yes he used to play those sort of games. He said to me once, all I want is a woman who really loves me. (think he is basically insecure) Well, I did love him. Then he goes and throws it all away. And starts on the online dating!

You know what, I will never understand men.

[curlyperm]

blimey curlyfilm? is that really what they think like?? how unkind is that? and i know your a bloke...........but just asking? xx

[curlyfilm]

lol, as a man, i will never understand women, its like....anything i say will be twisted around and used against me, and thats not meant at you two lovely ladies, just in real life


dont worry trinny, i know its hard, but time does heal, just play him at his own game, tell him you met someone else who is lovely, i know its lying, but revenge is sweet he may learn a lesson, but i doubt it, there are lots of normal men around with no hang ups, remember look at it as an escape, so your better off so no need to be sad, though thats how you will feel

and curlyperm is female, curlyfilm is male,,,,,,lol

[Trinny]

yes curlyperm, some men do do that. The now ex, once had a pic taken of him kissing a woman from his work at christmas do. Left it on his pc. My son whilst doing work experience at his place of work saw it and told me.

I was then accused by the now ex, of being jealous.

[curlyfilm]

sorry, and not all men think like that, some yes but not all x

[Trinny]

Curlyfilm, women twisting things round! NEVER! lol... I dont think me lying to say I had met someone new would work. But thanks for the suggestion. And thanks for letting me which curly is male and female.

Was getting a bit confused :)

[curlyfilm]

see trinny, i'm sure he would know your son would find it
if he wanted it to be secret, it would not be there
and why would he blame you for being jealous! he sounds like my wifes ex, insecure......

believe me, this would have just got worse, think how lucky you are

[curlyfilm]

lol,,,,,i am certainly male, just worldly.........

it will not work, i know that, but its called revenge, very sweet and satisying ............

[Trinny]

curlyfilm, yes, he wanted me to see it. And he knew I would make a big fuss of it. Stupid git.

Once I get over the feeling of rejection/self esteem battered. I am sure at some point I will hopefully feel I had a lucky escape.

Wish I had your optimism lol