affair

[kitty1981]

lat january i found out my fella was seeing someone behind my back and i move out of the house. After living at my mums for 8 months we got back together. I am currently 3 months pregnant and last night i found out he is seeing her again. what do i do, i am so confused.

[sleepyj]

sorry to hear that . how nasty is he ? take care xx

[ummmm]

If you keep forgiving him he'll keep doing it. One chance is enough.

[rugeleyboy]

did you find out for sure or has someone made a wild guess and has started sh1t stirring with you both???

[scruffscat]

Chuck him out, dont these men ever learn lessons ! you have yourself and your child to think of now. Hes done it to you 2 times now, I feel for you i really do,i left my kids dad with the kids, my tv, a microwave and 2 chairs.It was hard ,and that was 12 years ago.Im with someone who really cares for me and who is completely trustworthy now.You deserve better.Good luck yo you x

[megan07]

Hi kitty ( in my experience a leopard never changes it's spots ) please do not waste your life on a waster their are plenty of good men out there who would respect you and the baby i have a lovely partner now i wish you all the best of luck and i hope you have a happy outcome

[rugeleyboy]

as the only male here i wil have to shout!!

ahem !!! HOW DO YOU KNOW ITS TRUE!!!!!

[ummmm]

I was just presuming it's true because she has said she has found out. If she said a mate of a mates cousin told me I would say it's just gossip.

[society]

Kitty don't think I'm mean to you because I'm not. But I think when you dump someone and go back to them, what do you expect? Especially since he was cheating on you. You made a mistake but it's not to late. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on. Just make sure he supports the child financially.
Good luck to you and the baby!

[rugeleyboy]

but she hasnt said if she knows for sure??

[carlyo2le]

thats orfull kitty, i personally wouldnt have taken him back at all and even though it would have been hard not to go back even if you love him but for your own sake and happiness you should get out now if hes done it once hel do it again and again and all youll be thinking when your with him is about this other girl and what hes done with her be happy show him and be strong leave and dont answer his calls etc get a new outfit and be confident, get your hair done and show him what hes missing hel soon realise hes made a big mistake and youl be laughing!! as for been pregnent are you sure you really want this child as youll forever have contact with this heartless man if you still want this pregnancy to go ahead just be strong keep your self looking good and as your tummy grows hel soon be kicking his self for what hes missing, good look and be strong kitty think everything through carefully and do what you feel but dont let that 2 timing git back in your life!!!

[Roughquest]

Kitty - you can rest in the knowledge he will never leave you for these other women, however - YOU MUST NOT PUT UP WITH HIS BEHAVIOUR A MOMENT LONGER ! He is making a mug of you, afterall he will keep on doing this to as you have taken him back - therefore he sees this as acceptable....leave now, please for your own health and that of your unborn child.

[kitty1981]

It is definately true as i saw him texting her and i confronted him. its not people sh1t stirring as someone said. my problem is that i have no where to go and no money. There is no way i can finance bringing up the child on my own even with help from the government. Part of me thinks it will be easier to stay with him but i will never ever trust him again

[carlyo2le]

get back to your mums and untill you want to go back to work (after babys born) the goverment will give you �117 a week and free milk this is easy to live on i did it when i had my little boy! you also get a grant of �4oo or �800 for getting things just b4 your due date! it seems to me you want to put up with him!! good luck!!

[kitty1981]

thanks everyone.