Men!!

[4getmenot]

My ex text me lastnight after seeing me and my new bloke together and he said he was going to try split us up and steal me away. I told my bloke just in case he heard any stupid rumours that the ex might be trying to spread and he wanted me to tell him where ex lives, I said no and now he's annoyed I wont tell him. To me I just cant be doing with it dragging on and maybe I shouldn't have said a thing, but if my bloke goes round to confront him then the ex is getting just what he wants, a reaction. Have I done the right thing?

[redcrx]

yes you have. Youre being honest with your new fella, thats the best way for a relationship. You are also trying to save any trouble by not giving him the address of your ex and he should be able to understand that. If i see your ex I'll tell him where to get off, treating you the way he did he deserves no second chance and should learn from his mistake, not threaten you.

So...............do we get to meet him on Thursday??? I might stay late just to check him out lol

[whiskeysheri]

Absolutely. Had a similar situation myself before, 4get. Only bad can come of it.

Best thing to do is ignore him and he'll get bored eventually, when he's had no reaction. :o) x

[Joe_the_Lion]

No do not tell him.

What will be the outcome, a fight leading to injuries and a possible arrest? There are scummers on here who keep threatening violence towards me. They look bad enough on here, imagine what it will be like in real life.

I can truthfully say outside of the Army and on the Rugby field I have never been in a fight in my life. I do not look "hard", but if truth be told I could probably kill anybody within about 3 seconds. So what's the point?

[4getmenot]

Well he probably wouldn�t fight him but he�d probably do his car over or something more stupid, he doesn�t need to do a thing. He said he would find out somehow and I said if you want to keep me happy then don�t do a thing otherwise it will only p1ss me off. The ex is upset he may have treated me like cr@p but he doesn�t deserve to have that just coz he now realises what he had. And redcrx it wouldn�t be a second chance, if I did it which I definitely wouldn�t it would be about his tenth And no he�ll come round later I should think. You�ll be able to meet him one day. :-) I told ex that if he managed which he wouldn�t I wouldn�t go back to him anyway as nothing would have changed. and yer I know Pa__ul its nice but I wish I hadnt said anything now, but then I dont want to keep any secrets from the newbie

[4getmenot]

oh my god I just read your last comment Joe !!!!!!

[Joe_the_Lion]

A healthy salty snack, with less fat than a packet of peanuts.

[4getmenot]

excuse me my sis is on here!!

[redcrx]

please explain what you mean Joe :)

[megan07]

Hi 4getmenot i am not to suer what to say but you were very nice to me a couple of weeks ago when i needed to talk about my other -half we are ok now so what ever you do sweetheart i back you all the way you seem to be a nice person i do hope everything will be ok love megan

[ummmm]

he he he...Joe!!!!!!!!!!

[4getmenot]

ah bless ya megan xx

[4getmenot]

I've tried searching what was it I answered megan?

[Octavius]

Is there any particular reason that you need to stay in touch with your ex? In consideration of the newbies feelings, might it be time to tell the ex to go away and leave you get on with your life and your new relationship. Can you change your mobile number to show newbie you are serious about him? Threats like this are tantamount to harrassment.

[Octavius]

Probably not as much hassle as fisticuffs at dawn, but that�s up to you. I think you did the right thing telling him � but how did you expect him to react? If he had said nothing would you have felt a bit miffed..?! Set some ground rules with the ex, tell him to sling his hook and ignore any texts or messages from him, you either want move on or you don�t.