get us a drink/ a snack/ my glasses will ya?

[liquidspace]

This is basically the main thing my partner has said to me over the weekend.

Makes me wonder, does your gf/bf ask you to get up and get things for him/her.

When both of us are reclining back on the sofas why is it he expects me to jump up and serve him?

[redcrx]

does your daughter live with you? perhaps the two of you can manage to afford a place of your own

[liquidspace]

Thanks wingnut. Yes he does have honour and has said he will pay me back (by whatever method arises) and I do believe him. So really if I stay it looks more likely I will get it although if I left I probably would but then maybe Im just kidding myself. Its amazing how stupid i have been in my life and I used to think I was a strong, mature woman! I have never before let any man take advantage of me as this one has, beware of charmers eh?!

[4getmenot]

I'm sure no matter how strong we think we are evryone on here as let someone walk over them at one point in their life, wether it be their partners, parent, children. Dont ever be ashamed to ask for help.

[megan07]

Hi liquid please be careful, i am not being cheeky but this sounds like you are going through a bit of mental abuse.
He sounds like he will just do as he pleases, i was ones with a guy like yours and i would not, listen to my friends and it all ended, in tears.
And he walked away with not a care in the world, thank god i have a good man now and i am suer you will one day .
You sond like a nice person and i wish you lots of love and happiness for the future. megan

[~Wingnut~]

How about trying a solicitors for a bit of advice (first 1/2 hr is usually free) and just see if you can get some sort of agreement drawn up. If you had that then you have less of a tie to him and the house.
I know it is a lot of money but you sound so low and sad that drawing a line under it, accept the fact the money is gone and start a fresh on your own seems the only way forward to break away from this situation. Do you have family or a friend where you could kip on their sofa for a month or so and save up some money?
He will always have a hold on you whilst he owes you this money, he knows that so I think by the sound of things he is stringing you along using you. You need to be strong and break free. Good Luck xxx

[liquidspace]

Thanks x