personal effects for Valentine's

[beenee]

I am thinking of sending my boyfriend, who's abroad this year, a collection of little things to remind him of me. I'd love some suggestions on what I could include.

Also would appreciate some honest advice from the guys about whether a bloke would genuinely like to receive something like this. Many thanks in advance!

[David H]

I like that idea. It would certainly impress me, all I can suggest is a small collection of the sort of everyday things you'd have around if you were actually there which are clearly yours. This could be a little notebook or old diary, pictures of you with your family from childhood, articles of clothing (oo-er) and the like. It would be the nearest thing to actually having you there.

[paulz]

His favourite chocolates/sweets, sexy letters, kiss, cuddle [& whatever else you're prepared to offer] vouchers. The promise of a visit to his favourite place, restaurant on return. Even something like a single red rose [even arftificial - spray it with your perfume] or one of those forever friends type charms that split it two.

[paulz]

I meant to add [depends where he is in the world] nothing to valuable, probably best no to send alcohol. Or if he's got e-mail get yourself a webcam and send him a sexy video message. They all cheered me up when I was off on a never ending training course.

[apricot]

Something that smells of you, maybe a handkerchief with some of your perfume?

[gazzawazza]

Yep, definitely something that smells of yourself. I think that would be the best thing for me if I was away from my wife. Also recently taken photos and I love the idea of the sexy video!!!

[BadBob]

If you want honest advice, I'll put my hand up and say I genuinely would'nt like to receive something like this which. What I mean is if sdomebody did this for me I'd say I would say I liked it but it wouldn't be genuine. It seems on balance other blokes would, so you can make your own mind up. If he's constantly phoning saying he's missing you then go for it if he's not I wouldn't go to some special effort or expense over it. My question would be are you doing it because he's missing you or is it you missing him ? Not trying to put words in your mouth, I don't know either of you.

[BadBob]

Sorry if I have offended or put you off, i didnt mean too. I think often people who answer people's request for advice do so with knowledge that the person is actually asking for back up. The fact you have asked the question would suggest you think its what you want to do. I just wanted to given honest advice and that was I would say I liked it but would'nt have necessarily been genuine. As for suggestions, as people have already suggested something with you perfume on or a good alternative but a bit odd is before going to bed have a bath and use or your ordinary soaps, creams etc, put on you normal perfume then get a clean pillow case and use it that night in the morning you will have a pillow case full of the essence of you which your boyfriend could use, send along a sample bottle of your perfume and he could keep the pillow going for sometime.

[funkylad20]

How about you actually going over to see him? My boyfriend is away a lot and the best thing is when we see each other again; so just do it!

[Greedyfly]

If you wear perfume - maybe a small bottle for him to spray when feeling lonely?

[beenee]

Some lovely ideas on here, thank you! I did the perfume thing for his birthday and I have to say it was a hit. (+ kisses in my lipstick etc. etc.) A question, wouldnt the rose be a bit girlie?

BadBob, highly appreciate your views don't worry about putting me off at all. My bf is missing me desperately and his first answer to what he'd like was 'you, gift wrapped' - bless.

Funkylad, I'd love to go but it's a long haul journey and I have too many work commitments and financial constraints at the moment.

Any other bits?

[note to self: get webcam]

[coggles]

Hello beenee, how about setting up a tripod to take a really good picture of yourself (as has been suggested) then sticking it on a piece of thick card. Depending how long your bf is away for, say 10 weeks, cut the photo up into ten pieces, like a jigsaw puzzle and send him 1 piece of the puzzle a week - keeping the nicest bits of the photo until last!!!!! I bet you will have lots of fun when you finally get to see each other.......!!!!!

[paulz]

Beenee - hi some cracking ideas here especially coggles's; he'll be on the plane back b4 you know it. I don't think flowers are girlie, in fact I can never understand why a bloke never gets given them. Wifey & I still have our wedding day buttonhole/corsages. Guess you know your man best. Interflora him a single red rose if you think a bunch wouldn't work. [A bouquet of roses will cost at least 4 times the price on 14th Feb] I think you can also send champagne in a similar way, don't know where you'd start to look - unless you try Thresher's wine bar [was Peter Dominic] as a starter, they certainly do either a voucher to post & spend at the recipients local offy and were doing a pay & delivered by local offy too. Good luck!! I'm sure whatever you decide to do he'll be pleased to get it - after all it's nicer to get something rather than nothing !

[Caladon]

my ex girlfriend once sent me a pillowcase sprayed with her perfume, so whilst i was away on business in a hotel i would change pillow covers and imagine it were her. ok yes this may seem a bit softy wofty but it made me feel warm inside and as though she were there with me (see there are some sensitive guys with hearts out there). she also sent me one of those cartoon characters where you push their heads back and dispense a small sweet from the base (can't remember name...weird name). also a nice, not so romantic but still incredibly special, is burn a few songs onto a cd. this is very special because it means you have to think very hard about the songs, lyrics and the order they are on the cd (what follows and proceeds each song). best of luck, but at the end of the day, be yourself as that is why he loves you

[danraa]

I've seen this wicked site www.saysomethingspecial.co.uk you could do a webpage dedicated to ur boyfriend the site hasn't launched yet but I've found out that its due to launch tomorrow or Wednesday