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on the verge of an affair!
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ok heres a problem for you. me and my husband have been married 7 months, i love him to bits. but we are going through a bad patch at mo. ive previously wrote about him on his stupid game(wow) and paying no attention to me or our son, so i think this is what it stems from. anyway, recently i have heard from an ex of mine someone i loved very much and it broke my heart when we broke up. ive never stopped thinking of him and that was 4 years ago. i rung him and we have been texing and emailing, he says he wants to see me again etc.
so the problem is i just dont know what to do, the love of my life wants to see me, and im in 2 minds what to do.
ive been honest with my hubby and told him the situation, i need love and affection from HIM, not my x
but he is so wraped up in his game, and he now says he cant show me anything unless i get my ex out my head.
but i wouldnt even be writing this if me and my hubby were loved up. im blaming it on him and hes blaming it on me........... please help.
so the problem is i just dont know what to do, the love of my life wants to see me, and im in 2 minds what to do.
ive been honest with my hubby and told him the situation, i need love and affection from HIM, not my x
but he is so wraped up in his game, and he now says he cant show me anything unless i get my ex out my head.
but i wouldnt even be writing this if me and my hubby were loved up. im blaming it on him and hes blaming it on me........... please help.
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Chuffin heck no wonder this world's falling to pieces! You wimmin are acting like there's nobody that it'll hurt. Splitting up is the absolute last resort and usually only something I would recommend if the other has been unfaithful. This isn't an episode of Sex and the City! The girls married and she's going through a bad patch ffs! Don't just tell her to get out, she's in a serious loving relationship but right now her hubbies got a bit of a gaming addiction, perhaps it's because there's so much nonsense on TV these days!
Kitten, you just need to designate time for when he isn't allowed to play the computer, say Friday's and Saturday's are you time and no later than 10 at night or something!
Don't just chuck everything away for the sake of some @rse that you split up with years ago that can't stand the fact that you've moved on with your life. An ex is an ex for a reason ffs.
Kitten, you just need to designate time for when he isn't allowed to play the computer, say Friday's and Saturday's are you time and no later than 10 at night or something!
Don't just chuck everything away for the sake of some @rse that you split up with years ago that can't stand the fact that you've moved on with your life. An ex is an ex for a reason ffs.
Dont forget: 'for better and for worse'.
Have you really tried to sort things out as much as you can? If you have then fair enough. Every marriage has a problem of some sort at one time or another it's not all fun and games. Even if this guy was the love of your life you were obviously not his. You also made a decision to marry your now husband so that was your decision and unless you really cant sort it out then you've got to stick by it and sort things out. It's only human nature to want fun and excitment but when in a relationship with responsibilities these can take there toll and even the most fun loving people can end up under pressure and with problems.
All i'm saying is you've got to be sure in your own mind that you have tried everything if you truly do love your hubby.
And if you have at least show your hubby and child some respect by not two timing.
We all get fed up from time to time and think the grass is greener but other people come with other problems.
Have you really tried to sort things out as much as you can? If you have then fair enough. Every marriage has a problem of some sort at one time or another it's not all fun and games. Even if this guy was the love of your life you were obviously not his. You also made a decision to marry your now husband so that was your decision and unless you really cant sort it out then you've got to stick by it and sort things out. It's only human nature to want fun and excitment but when in a relationship with responsibilities these can take there toll and even the most fun loving people can end up under pressure and with problems.
All i'm saying is you've got to be sure in your own mind that you have tried everything if you truly do love your hubby.
And if you have at least show your hubby and child some respect by not two timing.
We all get fed up from time to time and think the grass is greener but other people come with other problems.
Not always the case Skreecheeboy, I got back with my ex after 6 years of being apart. Difference was we were both single with nobody getting hurt and no mixed emotions to worry about.
We are happily married with 2 children, so you can sometimes go back, as long as you are sure it is the right thing to do.
I think kitten has a lot of questions she needs to ask herself before making any decisons about her future tbh.
We are happily married with 2 children, so you can sometimes go back, as long as you are sure it is the right thing to do.
I think kitten has a lot of questions she needs to ask herself before making any decisons about her future tbh.
Hmmm, it looks like you cant be trusted so your probably better off splitting up.
You could try and work things out, but what happens the next time you feel unloved? You will only do the same again. Also i dont think your husband will ever forget about it either. Any time you argue it will get brought up.
I know you say you love him to bits, but maybe your interpretation of love is different to his.
If your blaming anyone, dont blame yourself. Its a 2 way thing. Your ex only wants you for sex and he will soon dissapear from the picture.
Giood luck...
You could try and work things out, but what happens the next time you feel unloved? You will only do the same again. Also i dont think your husband will ever forget about it either. Any time you argue it will get brought up.
I know you say you love him to bits, but maybe your interpretation of love is different to his.
If your blaming anyone, dont blame yourself. Its a 2 way thing. Your ex only wants you for sex and he will soon dissapear from the picture.
Giood luck...
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Your ex should be no way in this picture. I think you want to start cheating with your ex and you want us to convince you it's the right thing to do. Did you take marriage vows when you got married? Did you understand their meaning?
I think you are to blame. If you were paying enough attention to your husband he would not turn to get comfort from his games. If you truly wanted your marriage to work you would have kept quiet about your ex and try to work things out with your husband? Didn't you think telling your husband about your ex would hurt his feeling and ego?
You are at fault.
I think you are to blame. If you were paying enough attention to your husband he would not turn to get comfort from his games. If you truly wanted your marriage to work you would have kept quiet about your ex and try to work things out with your husband? Didn't you think telling your husband about your ex would hurt his feeling and ego?
You are at fault.
Channel 4 have started showing Sex and the City repeats. Starting to think Patrick Moore had too many women choosing the television schedule. Not trying to single out anybody inparticular but some of the women were saying "just get out of your marriage! He's not worth it" (in finest New York accents!) I'm surprised we didn't hear calls to "Buy your own machine to make love to sweatheart! Show him how it feels!"
Sometimes I despair of the fairer sex.
Sometimes I despair of the fairer sex.
I agree with triggerhappy and skreech, nobody can truly understand somebody's circumstances from a few lines written on a page.
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Sometimes the best way to answer questions like these is with questions.
Sometimes by asking themselves these questions the topic starter is able to form a judgment themselves, rather than being swayed by "public opinion"
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I'm not saying Kitten should leave... I am saying if she isn't happy then why stay?
He is making no effort and sounds like he needs a big kick up the bum! Nothing would kick him more than you walking out! But..... all that said and done.... I don't think you should go back to your ex.... if things aren't working with your husband than give him space.. give him time to miss you and to see what things are like without you... Don't jump from one guy to the next! You need to mend yourself from the damage of this relationship before going straight in for the next one!
He is making no effort and sounds like he needs a big kick up the bum! Nothing would kick him more than you walking out! But..... all that said and done.... I don't think you should go back to your ex.... if things aren't working with your husband than give him space.. give him time to miss you and to see what things are like without you... Don't jump from one guy to the next! You need to mend yourself from the damage of this relationship before going straight in for the next one!
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