Lung Cancer

[chitchat]

I have just lost my wonderful father to lung cancer. We didnt know he even had it! Thankfully he didnt know either and he passed in his sleep.

How can anyone have cancer and not have any symptoms? The whole family is shocked by this news and he hadnt smoked for 34 years.

[dot.hawkes]

tough time for you all then, take comfort in realising he didn't suffer as badly as he might have, he's at peace, look after your family

dotty
xxxx

[chitchat]

Thanks dotty. We are all glad that he didnt suffer and he didnt know. But we cant understand how something so fatal didnt present any signs.

[dot.hawkes]

maybe he was from a tough old family and he has grown up accepting the odd ache and pain, i know my Mum did, doctors weren't bothered for something that was caused by an extra hard days work. maybe he did know and chose the heroes way, keep quiet and don't worry your loved ones. The man is to be admired for either.

[bednobs]

it might be that he did have symptoms, but either didnt share them with anybody , or stoically put up with them thinking they were something else

[B00]

Awwww chitchat, I can't help with your question, just wanted to offer my condolences. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Take care
Boo
xxxx

[mrknowall]

Im sorry to hear of your loss chitchat
mrk x

[China Doll]

Hi Chitchat,

There are different types of lung cancer and they're not all the same, they don't all show symptons and some show no obvious symptons and are often only discovered during surgery for something completely different. I think if you did a google search you would find information about the different types, however without any clinical knowledge it might not be that useful to you.

Cancer research has a website and a questions and answers bit and they might be able to give some more advice, otherwise perhaps it might be a good idea to talk to your GP so at least it may help you understand.

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss and wish there was more of use I could say. I wish you all the best. xx

[ethandron]

hello chitchat. my mum died of lung cancer 10 years ago, and had no symptoms, apart from a pain in her shoulder which was being treated as arthritis. when she finally had a biopsy of the slight swelling in her shoulder, and was told it was lung cancer, she only survived a further 6 weeks.
you're right, the shock is awful. we barely had time to come to terms with the fact she had terminal cancer, then she was dead.
you probably don't believe it right now, but time really does heal. it took me a good 2 years before i could let myself think about my mum, and remember all the good times, instead of dwelling on her last few weeks. be glad he didn't know.

[bigmamma]

chitchat poppet, my heart goes out to you and your family .This shock must be hard for you to come to terms with and I understand you have many questions running round your mind .My father died , cancer riddle with his primary being in his lung years ago and ,although he knew ,and had symptoms , I can remember how bravely he carried the illness. As others have said , your father was obviously of strong stoic character . Take time for yourself .
Love xx

[sense4all]

So sorry to hear your news. Here are some hugs for you to have ... hug, hug, hug. It's a lot to take on board. Grief can be a peculiar thing, so be kind to yourself over the next few weeks. Lots of love from Sense. XXX.

[Carakeel]

Chitchat, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. My heart goes out to you and to your family. The shock must indeed have been so immense. Perhaps soon you can try to focus on how lucky he was not to have suffered through months or possibly years of symptoms. I lost my son to brain cancer after nearly four desperately traumatic years of fighting to save his life. He died in my arms just three days before his 21st birthday. His death was eventually a relief, as he had been in horrendous pain and suffered terrible symptoms for so long, although I I so didn't want it to come. So, I feel happy for your father and for you and your family not to have had to go through any of that. Your memories will be good ones, happy ones and this will help you to find balance and positivity again. Your father was obviously a very special man and he will live on in your heart and your thoughts. Big hugs and best wishes and may you all find many, many good, happy, funny things to talk about when you think of your father. Keep him fresh in your mind and he will always accompany you through life. My Kevin walks each day with me and each day is filled with positivity and laughter. Yours will be again too. XXX :o)

[knobbynonuts]

Am so sorry for your grief chit I lost my dad to cancer and my ex g/f lost her dad as well to the same thing it is just devistating isent it my heart goes out to you all my love to you babe

[chitchat]

Thank you all so very much for all your kind messages. I am taking comfort from the fact that he had a good life and was loved very much by his family and friends and that we all have good memories of him.

[bigmamma]

Those memories will stay dear to your heart love .
Take care sweetheart . xx

[Meg888]

Hi Chitchat, so sorry to hear such bad news, deepest sympathies for you and your family. I lost my father in law to this a few years ago, he deteriated very quickly and he was in a terrible way towards the end. I've had a few experiences (not myself thankfully) of people with this terrible illness, and find that quite often people discover they have it by chance, and then are not actually ill until they go through motions to get better, if you get my drift. So at least he had dignity and quality of life right to the end, and your memories of him were as you always knew him, treasure those and stay strong xx xx