Hi Scarlett,you haven't offended me, I just find it sad,because during my life I have only ever been 100% honest in relationships, and I thought most people were, I know I have brought my two sons up to respect women and to treat them properly, and I don't mean just opening the door, I mean as equals and to be honest and faithful, I am also sorry that the experiences you have had along with a lot of the other posters on here have seen most blokes as spineless, I never realised men were loooked at like this as I can only say how I and my mates behave, none of my mates have ever had affairs, and we have all been married for a long, long time, hope you do find a bloke with a bit of backbone, cos there are some out there, well I hope there are still some, but it is also hard for decent blokes to find a nice girl, both my sons would love to settle down and have children, but as they both say finding a decent girl is hard, plenty of oner night stands, but neither of them want that, so I suppose it works both ways, good luck, and take care, Ray xx