Any experts in male behaviour?

[nellypope]

Met this guy tonight, who invited me to his for a small gathering, I sensed that he liked me, he stage-managed the situation, and everyone else left. We were alone talking, then he said, "look you better leave, because I really like you".
I thought it was written into male genetics that you don't give up on "free lunch".

Was it.....

A) he was a gentlemen
B) I did something to offend
C) ....can't think of C

What do you think?

[Ebbs]

perhaps he's not single

[nellypope]

Hi ebbs, Good call, but yes he is.

[Ebbs]

gotta go for 'A' then ;o)

[nellypope]

Thanks Ebbs ;-)

I did secretly hope for A, I have to admit I'm not really the offensive type, you just never know.

[nellypope]

Sorry i just occurred to me, I ask only because I've not been single for LONG time, it's rather foreign to me.

[IggyB]

he was hoping you'd say "i really like you too" - but prob doubting you would.

[Ethel]

Maybe he doesn't like women who have sex with strangers.

[Aschenbach]

c) he knocked one out 10 minutes earlier in the toilets.

[RogeDodge]

He wanted to be a challenge to you ? He got you posting on here and thinking about him didn't he ? :)

[nutgoneflake]

I don't think you should be worrying at all! You could've woken up today thinking "I just shagged someone on a first date" and kicking yourself for messing it up!! You didn't seriously want to be remembered as a 'free lunch' surely!!??

You didn't, so well done you. He didn't, so he's a good 'un. You know how he feels about you, so now you can spend time getting to know him a bit and enjoying being single, but now with a looooove interest!!!

Have some fun now - you've set some good foundations! xx

[Le Chat]

Aschenbac, I am still laughing at your answer!!
nellypope - I agree with the others! Maybe he was giving you the space to say either yes or no. I'm sure he would've been persuaded easily to let you stay! lol! You did the right thing and that's good!!!

[RATTER15]

Im with iggy on this, I think you were supposed to say how much you liked him and then you end up in his bed!!

And no its not written into male genetics that you don't give up on "free lunch, if my date was up for it on the first night I wouldn't have seen her again, I wouldn't want a Woman that half the male population may have been through, I would want her to have a little more respect for herself!

[herons]

Hi Nelly if you haven't heard from him since, i think he just wanted someone pretty on his arm for that day. Or had something lined up for later. But he'll get in touch when he realises you were the one.

[mycats]

He either was or was pretending to be a gentleman??

[boobesque]

maybe you should try asking him?

[sqad617]

Simple Nelly ...he's gay,

[sleepy1]

maybe he is a killer .

[unrulyjulie]

I'd say (with my vast knowledge lol) that he was acting like a gentleman and didnt want you to be cornered into doing something you might regret afterwards, so take things slowly, sounds like he has respect for you!
Good luck

[nellypope]

Thanks guys, I have to admit, I have never gone the full monty on the first meet, simply because I don't think it makes you look very good to the guy.

Your answers are all Great, and it does show that he's more than likely a "good guy" thanks ppl ;-)

[joko]

oh its a little trick, the old "i like you too much and its all moving too fast for little old me... "

its akin to ''i've never felt like this before''

he probably sensed he wasn't going to get any that night and made a last ditch attempt to convince you that he was a good guy,
a gentlemen,
really liked you,
definately wanted to see you again

in the hope that you would ''see'' what a wonderful guy he was and therefore realise that it would be ok to sleep with him, because he surely was worth it, wasn't he...?

the fact that he ''stage managed'' the whole thing, says it all - he had no intention of you leaving - otherwise why get rid of other people...?

he hoped you would believe he was ''special'' because he didn't try it on with you...

oldest trick in the book.

by the way, this is the age of sexual equality, so any man who get ''squeamish'' and judgemental about a girl who likes sex and more or less accuses her of having 'half the male population' just because she gets caught up in the moment of a lovely, sensual evening and believes she has met someone nice, is really not worth having.
talk about double standards!

what is it with blokes that feel they have to resort to trickery and games in order to get a girl into bed, yet then when she appears to be only human and falls for it, she becomes some kind of worthless ***** who they can't stand and feel perfectly entitled to trample over her emotions?
you guys who pull this stuff might want to look inside and see who is really the bad one here.

its fcuked up!