Any experts in male behaviour?

[nellypope]

Met this guy tonight, who invited me to his for a small gathering, I sensed that he liked me, he stage-managed the situation, and everyone else left. We were alone talking, then he said, "look you better leave, because I really like you".
I thought it was written into male genetics that you don't give up on "free lunch".

Was it.....

A) he was a gentlemen
B) I did something to offend
C) ....can't think of C

What do you think?

[cazzz1975]

wow that does sound quite plausable joko!

[Ebbs]

Any news Nelly?? has he called you or you called him??
I'm hoping for a happy ending please keep us nosey people updated ;0)

[RATTER15]

Joko, I don't use trickery to get a woman into bed, I wouldn't sleep with a date on the first night or the first few come to that!! so no I don't have double standards!! I just like to know that a Woman is respectable and has self respect before I sleep with her. Sorry if it doesn't fit in with your ideals, you should try it, its a far better experience all round, and its called self control!!

[fiest82]

It's a polite way of saying "you are a nice person but I'm just not that into you"

[nellypope]

Hi Joko

Strangely enough, I read your post prior to work today, and dismissed it. Went to work and found out he has a reputation for spiking drinks etc, a BAD reputation!

You got it ;-) If there was a prize you'd be the receiver.

I was not interested at all, just thought it was strange how all of a sudden he wanted me to go, which was great, because I didn't have to think up excuse. However I may have had more to do with him.

[Marijn]

That's a brilliant answer Joko. I think that sounds spot on.

[joko]

ratter - i didn't say you did use trickery - i said some guys do, and given that this is not your question, its safe to assume i was referring to that.

your assumption that any girl who decides she feels comfortable enough to have sex has automatically had ''half the population'' ( your words) is an assumption that is rarely made or used in reference to men - that is double standards.

I do not sleep with every man I meet, so keep the self righteous arrogant mini lecture to yourself.

my point was if a girl does it once, how does that equate as doing it with 'everyone'?
a tad over the top judgement, don't you think.

its about time people stopped viewing sex as some dirty disgusting thing and trying to instil guilt about on people, and assuming someone is worthless because they happen to like it.

women have the same desires and urges as men, yet we are expected to keep them hidden and play all these stupid ''courting'' games and rituals, in order to convince some bloke of some old fashioned value that we are expected to have.

you do realise most that stuff is generally not real don't you?
most girls have the desire and urge, and really want to - but hold back, because society says they should and they have had all these rules drummed into them - in their heads they are thinking it, same as the bloke, so be under no illusions.

it has nothing to do with 'self respect' - i don't see how wanting to have sex is a sign of a lack of self respect...
the problem lies with the attitude of blokes who talk about women the way you did - that is the main reason most women hold back - fear of gossip - not because they feel 'disrespectful' or feel chaste