g/f up the duffers

[MaDmAnGuNnEr]

hi my g/f is up the plum and i am really not very happy about it, my parents and her parents are over the moon but i cannot feel pleased, i feel pretty trapped and am doubting wather i will saty with her. i dont think i will as i am not ready to be a dad. what can i do, do i have any rights as a dad to make her have an abortion?

[laurence2]

So your soul contribution to suppoting her at this moment in time is to suggest an ''Abortion''


Have you an earthly what a women goes through when she has to have an abortion, somehow i think you don't.

It sounds like its all about poor old you, i can't deal with it speeech, well sunshine you better pull your socks up and ''deal'' with it, because this is reality now, you live and learn my mistakes

[cazzz1975]

you need to be honest with her, If you are not ready now, you may,like you say become resentful of both of them anyway.

life unfortunately is not like the fairy tales and if you end up splitting it would probably be better for the child to be brought up in a happy nurturing environment. Assuming that is that your feelings remain the same. be honest, dont lead her on..

[Champagne]

You can suggest it, but get ready for a slap in the face. If she's overjoyed about having this baby then she may decide to go ahead with the pregnancy without your support. Until, that is, the CSA remind you of your responsibility.

Happy non-fathering...

[cazzz1975]

sadly the csa couldnt locate the last doughnut in a packet...

[Le Chat]

She was on the pill and you wore a condom? Please don't insult everyone on here! Oh, you sound a right one " my g/f is up the plum!" God help that baby if it gets here.

[cazzz1975]

she might have lied le chat, she might have wanted to get pregnant..its not like that kind of thing never happens

[joko]

it is highly unlikely that two normally very good methods of protection both simulataneously failed.

therefore, it might be that she did this on purpose to get pregnant - put holes in the condoms and didn't take her pill perhaps?

is this something she has expressed a desire for before?

[Champagne]

Cazzz, and thank God too that the CSA is useless! I've mothered 9 kids all to different fathers and the CSA haven't managed to track me down yet. *phew*

[confused79]

Dont get me wrong im not agreeing to what he is saying not that its all true, but people come on here for advice and all he has got is abuse and aggresion.

I am not agreeing to what he is saying in the least but obviosuly he has found it hard to talk to anyone hence coming on here, has anyone asked his age??????

I was 17 when i had my first child and i was never asked by anyone what i wanted to do, looking back i was a kid still and that was it, i was left to get on with it, which i did i will add very well, and with support of my babies dad who i stayed with.

Firstly i would say you need to speak to your GF but you need to have the right attitude, i think you have the wrong attitude saying 'i want you to have an abortion' and you sound like if she wont you will leave her, that certianly is not the way to go about it.
Do you love her????? are you happy being with her??? if no to both then you shoudlnt be with her anyway.
If you do love her then surely yuo should work this out and communcate with her.
If you are a decent man which i hope you are and say for instance you do decide you cant take it!! you should still be a supportive Dad if you like it or not there will be a baby that you have made and need to take responsibilty off!!

If you walk away leaving her with your baby and dont want anything to do with the baby then i take all the first bit i wrote back you would then be a typical coward bloke!!
Sorry but its true, just hope you do the right thing and i think you know what that is.