sympathy card for funeral

[caz247]

I am going to a funeral tomorrow for a girl I went to
school with, she took her own life last weekend.
her husband was in my class at school and I know
her mum too. my question is do I write on the card to her mum or her husband i know this prob sounds a daft post

caz

[redcrx]

why not get one for each of them?

[China Doll]

I've been in a similar situation. In my case I gave a card to the father and one to the wife too.

[joannie10]

How sad. Yes I suggest one for the husband and a separate one for the mother. Both will be going through such a terrible time that they will appreciate your acknowledgement at a time when they get the chance to sit down and read the cards and reflect.

[dot.hawkes]

if you go into Clinton cards and go to the miscellaneous section you will find a card for loss of wife and loss of daughter.

[bigmamma]

Sorry to hear this sad loss , I agree that it would be appropriate to get one for each .

[caz247]

thanks for answers much appreciated
i will just get one for each of them although I don't
mind admitting I am dreading going


caz

[4getmenot]

why are you dreading it? Its is weird when someone takes their own life, 3 of my friends have and you go to the funeral and the thing that gets me is the vicar going on about it all when it is against that religion to take your life.

[caz247]

i really don't know why i am dreading it have known her all
my life went to primary and secondary school with her and her hubby was in my class at secondary school too they have been with each other since school, she worked in
local chemist since leaving school,
years back her dad committed suicide as well when we were still at school
i think it's the not knowing what to say to her mum 2moro

[joannie10]

I can understand why you are dreading it. You feel so much for the husband and mother who of course will be thinking 'could I not have done something to help' especially when the mum has gone through this before losing her husband in such a cruel way. You worry about saying the right thing but of course the family will be glad of any support.

[4getmenot]

just think you may be dreading it, just think how the parent is having to cope or the husband. I'm sure they will be pleased that you went. Hope it all goes ok. xx

[caz247]

thanks 4get, you are right

caz

as usual you always give great advice on here

[black bunny]

Caz, they will not be expecting you to say anything, they will just need your support and to know you are there if they need anything.
If I had to write such a card, I think I would say something like " I am thinking of you/ praying for you, and I am here if you need anything at all." I don't think there are any other words to say.