help!

[nannon]

Me and my boyf still not sorted things out....don't think that we will. (which means my bidy and soul are severly damaged right now...)
Am in work barely holding it together - keep crying.
Please post things to cheer me up/keep me entertained!
Anything!!

[4getmenot]

Bet you feel like this

[johnlambert]

Here is a massive
((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))) just for you sweetheart

[4getmenot]

Stupid video link here you go

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=KpSfThUv_pc

[nannon]

haha - thats exactly how i feel! if i had any energy i would do that right in the middle of work!

Thanks for the hig x

[nannon]

ooops - hug even - what the hells a hig?!

[4getmenot]

how long were you with him nannon?

[johnlambert]

just googled hig and got this
lol

[Octavius]

why not do some work and take your mind off it?

[nannon]

was with him about 10 months...i know it doesnt sound long but bloody hell it hurts. Not sure we will get over it - i had 12 red roses delivered to him yesterday (man on phone said it wasnt unusual to give flowers to men...think he just wanted my money....) ad sent a letter to him trying to explain stuff that he should get today but last night he text me and said he loves me but he cant be around someone who can just turn for no reason and he thinks we should end it. But thats so STUPID!!!!!!!!! I love him and he loves me - all r'ships need to be worked at surely? And everyone makes mistakes?? right? I have forgiven him the times he has upset me.... If he doesnt respond agter he gets letter then i know its all over for good and nothing will hapen...we had EVERYTHING planned FFS!

Octavius - have done work today i'm just finding it very difficult today to not cry.

[confused79]

Ah bless you, can i ask what happened? you probably had a post about it but i didnt read it.
Thats not nice him not fogiving you if you love each other so much andi think 10 months is a long time in a relationship, i was madly in love with myboyfriend after 3 months and know it really really hurts.

[4getmenot]

I'd just leave him to have time and space on his own. If it doesnt work you just have to remember you are your own person you were on your own before and no one comes as a pair. Some people dont like being pressurized.

[4getmenot]

her post is in relationships confused

[johnlambert]

Us men are strange creatures nannon, as 4getmenot say's give him time to realise what he has lost and he'll slink back to you with his tail between his legs

[confused79]

Thank you 4get , i dont want her to have to explain it all again as that i know can be annoying.

[4getmenot]

yer as soon as he thinks he isnt getting any attention or that you dont care he'll come running. At the moment you seem to be putty in his hands. Which is fair enough as you did hit him but theres only so much you can do without looking pathetic

[Octavius]

Sounds like he is trying to set some boundaries of acceptability. Just letting you know that every time you go too far, it means his hand will hover over the ejector seat button. Don�t know what you did but providing it wasn�t something particularly disrespectful, he�ll probably get over it and have you back after a little more pleading.

[nannon]

haha - long story shorti was a but of a fruit loop and ended up slapping him in the face on saturday and he walked out and wet back to london early. Cant blame him for not wanting to know and it is pretty huge mistake to make but i dint mean ot - if've been feeling weried lately - have tried to explin to him but no go....
I guess if it was the other way round and he slapped me i would be doing exactly the same as him....

[4getmenot]

but you can see that if a man slapped his girl across the face we'd all be up in arms sating she shouldnt get back with him so it should be no different this time. But I do hope that he can forgive you this time and you can get through this. xx

[leelapops]

Oh nannon love, I feel for you.
It's a horrible situation to be in. My partner and I split before Christmas; after a period of unhappiness from both parties, I found he had been texting someone else :( I hurt like nothing else, and just ran on autopilot, crying when no-one was there. I moved out, and had an awful few months. We were on and off, and it was horrible. We are back together now, and we are working SO hard to make it right. Give him thinking time, he will appreciate it. He has said he loves you, let him think it all over, and then tell him how hard you are willing to work to sort things out (speaking to doc like you said in your first post etc.)

On the other side of the coin, relationships shouldn't be ALL about work-consider this too. If he just isn't willing to appreciate your efforts, accept that and try to move on hun (easier said than done).

All my good wishes for today, and if you need to pull a sickie and go home, do! Just don't tell them I told you to ;)

Not sure if you are a disney fan, but I love this: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=6AOEHW2SfWA and I am not even a cat person!

and: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=bdDGUUGnJJU which is Pixar.

johnlambert, perhaps small and mid-cap investments are the solution to ALL our problems?! ;)

[4getmenot]

ha ha see I'm glad you can undrestand why he is doing it