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Speaking of marraige does anyone think it's bad to elope?
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We've been wanting to get married for a while now, even more so now that I'm pregnant and to keep the families happy we said we'd get married in 2 years and have a big do. It's really not what either of us want. We are going away to Scotland in November and have been thinking of getting married then, just the two of us. Should we do it? Should we tell family thats our plans or should we just do it and tell them afterwards? Let me know your thoughts. TIA
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I too think that if you want to elope you should. I didn't get the wedding i really wanted due to family pressures, and once you're married there's no "do-over", short of getting a divorce and getting married again, that is!
If i could do it all again i would have gone for something much more low-key, and my husband agrees. you may only get one chance to have your dream wedding, you should be a bit selfish in this instance and do what you both want, not what your parents want.
If i could do it all again i would have gone for something much more low-key, and my husband agrees. you may only get one chance to have your dream wedding, you should be a bit selfish in this instance and do what you both want, not what your parents want.
Due to family problems we got married abroad in Cyprus - told everyone we were going to do it but that we wanted the marriage to be just us with the honeymoon included in the holiday.
We then had a party when we got back home. I never regret it being just the two of us (or two plus bump in your case)
We then had a party when we got back home. I never regret it being just the two of us (or two plus bump in your case)
weddings are a rite of passage - not just for the couple but a way for the parents to celebrate, so to speak, that you are leaving home to get working on the next generation. If you're happy to cut yourself off silently from your own families in this way, go ahead, it's your right. But don't be surprised if they feel a bit miffed. Are you not close to them?
Well there is a choice between the big wedding and elope.
Why not just book up a registry office for say 3 weeks away, and just tell everyone the date.
No time for masses of organization, no time for family rows about should aunt edith come becuase she does not like cousin billy, no time to make fancy dresses for the bridesmaids.
Most large weddings are far too complex and far too expensive.
Just tell everyone it is in 3 weeks time at "so and so" registry office and if they can make it they will.
Why not just book up a registry office for say 3 weeks away, and just tell everyone the date.
No time for masses of organization, no time for family rows about should aunt edith come becuase she does not like cousin billy, no time to make fancy dresses for the bridesmaids.
Most large weddings are far too complex and far too expensive.
Just tell everyone it is in 3 weeks time at "so and so" registry office and if they can make it they will.
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we didn't want a big wedding but knew our parents would be hurt if we didn't have one at all. We had one at the registry office then lunch at a nice restaurant (paid for by bride's parents in traditional style but costing very little) just for immediate family: parents and siblings. That left everyone happy that it had been celebrated properly but not extravagantly. Would something like that do?
Just remember that its your day - whatever you decide! I went abroad to get married (just the two of us) and was really nervous about telling both sets of parents that they weren't invited!! Thankfully they understood, and we had a big party when we got home - it was brilliant. I've never regretted it, and we still get comments from our party guests that it was the best 'wedding' that they've eve been to - over ten years later!!
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