Question for Mums

[Scarlett]

If you had two boys of 9 and 3, would it be possible for you to go away for the weekend and leave them? This would mean leaving your other half to do everything in your absence.

Have you ever left your kids of that age or are they too young? Could you trust your man to run everything in your absence?

[Doc Spock]

Never mind the mums. My mrs left me when my 2 girls were 10 and 8. You never leave your kids, fullstop.

[dimwithwit]

Most men can do it quite easily, they wouldn't want anything to happen to your cherished ones, just try it.

The house might be a mess when you come back, but that could only be a protest that you've gone.

is your other half ok with you going?

If so, I'd go. i'll have a whale of a time, i can't believe you haven't gone in 9 years.... gosh....

come on girlie live a little!!

[dot.hawkes]

i left my three with him once to go to London working for a weekend, and i made lists in large print and taped them all over the chimney breast, i used bold font too lol i was relying more on their reading skills than his ability to follow simple instruction

[dimwithwit]

doc, she didn't mean leave for good - just a weekend.

[oldgrape]

my sons are 1 and 5 i can't even leave them 4 one day tried it once and they refused to eat for there dad would not have abath or get changed into their clothes! hopefully when there a bit older i can have some freedom!
i suppose it depends on how well they listen and respect ur other half

[B00]

yes why not scarlett?

OK they might dress them in some weird clothing concoctions and feed them takaways, but it doesn't mean they're not capable.

[hau kola]

Ive been away for spa weekends with the girls and left my daughter in the capable hands of my bf.Hes not her Dad but shes known him since she was 8 months old.Why shouldnt he be capable,hes an adult.If he goes away golfing for a weekend i run everything.Tit for tat.

[aka pixi]

I could fully trust my husband to look after everything in my absence. He cooks a lot and does his share of the cleaning anyway and hes great with the kids. My kids are 21 and 15 and we have a 3 year old granddaughter, I know if he had to look after them all while I was away he would be fine.

[Goodsoulette]

I left my kids at 4 and under one and they were perfectly healthy. I did this a few times. I had to express whilst I was away, so that was a pain but it was much fun, a deserved break and Starsailor were worth it lol

[Katie~77]

I left my kids age 2 and 3 with my husband for a week while I went to Tenerife with work. They were absolutely fine, why wouldn't they be???x

[hau kola]

All men are capable of doing the things we do,they just pretend they can`t.Its just laziness in my opinion.

[FUZZYBEE]

Hubby is more than capable but unfortunately I am one of the soppy ones who couldn't bear to leave them as I would miss them too much. Dont get me wrong they get on my nerves but just a few hours away, maybe a day is enough for me.
I have already been through a box of tissues and they have only started school 2 days ago.
How rubbish am I ?
fuzzy x

[Scarlett]

Thanks for your quick answers!
It's not actually for me, it is my best friend. She has never left her kids, not even for an evening out. We are working together (by email) but we live at opposite ends of the country. I am ill and can't travel, but we have to get together to do some recording- the one thing we really can't do via PC. She refuses to come, and is being really aggressive about it. I wonder if it is just that she is a control freak, which she is. She has brought up her kids almost as if she was a single parent, even though her bloke is perfectly capable, and doesn't even work! Am I being unreasonable here?

[Pippa68]

I used to go out to work on weekends and know Mr P can manage. I have also gone away a few times with pals, and he can do everything I can..he just doesn't like to!

[fathead]

I once left mine for a day while I went to York. He took them for a bar meal with my pals hubby and kids. For tea they had sugar puffs (dry in a bowl) which were all over the floor when I came in.And a lens was missing out of sons glasses and no one could say where it went !!

[jodie73]

Yes. Having kids doesn't mean your life is completely over.
Make sure you trust the babysitter though.

[legend758duo]

no problem

i used to watch my two daughters every night so my ex wife could go to work .

a few days no problem.

afterall we are providers .

not like its hard work ladies is it ?

[EngTeach]

I wish my child bearing friends felt like some of you moms do. They are terrible about being away from their children. I think it's rather unhealthy. I always tell them I think they underestimate their husbands' abilities. One lets her 12 year old daughter dictate her time. She cancelled on a plan once because her daughter "was hysterical" about her leaving for an evening of dinner. (I suspect it was b/c we were leaving little chubby butt home and she was missing a meal out.- i know that's mean, but true.)

Being child-free, I try to understand that I don't have any idea what it's like to leave them, but come on already!!!!

[sense4all]

The trick is not to get bothered by what they do if you are not there! Dressed like an explosion in a paint factory - who cares? Eating earlier or later or not what you do - tough. Leave all the washing up behind, and your house has been subjected to the Kansas twister effect ... smile sweetly and say thanks even if it chokes you. Suggest that the more that they do this the better they will become ( that soon puts the frightners on the disaffected) If no one is in mortal peril even if you married the village idiot ... remember this is just an extended version of dropping your best china when they wash up so you don't ask too often. :-)

Mr Sense is one of those infuriating people who does everything well ( makes ya sick ) so on principle he would have to do a better job than me! lol.

[annie0000]

My husband used to look after our two boys full time until they started school, since he has gone back to work, i reduced my full time job by 2 and a half hours and changed my start time so that I do the before school and after school duties. He seems to be now incapable of doing any of the stuff he used to do. Considering he used to get them dressed every day, now he says that at the weekend, he cant' lay out their clothes as he is not sure what to give them. Sounds like laziness, but I think that now that he doesn't do it every day, he has lost confidence in how to look after them. Having said all that, whilst I would feel guilty leaving them, I am sure that they would be fine. I can kind of see his point about the clothes though, even when he looked after them, I always chose their clothes for the weekend because I wa there. He always had some weird combinations on during the week, but as I wasn't there, I just left him to get on with it. He reckons that he invented the t-shirt over a long sleeve top idea - when my 7 year old was a baby, he would put a t-shirt on over his long -sleeved vest! For some reason, he always matched their socks and t-shirts but would put any random trousers on with it. lol