Dilemma = help!

[who dee knee]

About 10 years ago, I had a one night stand with a celebrity. I have not seen him since.

I am now going to work on a production with him - he is the boss of the company.

If this were a normal job, I would just turn it down, but it is only for a few months, and he is pretty famous so I am keen to do this as he has industry weight and obviously anything he is connected with will probably do well - so it is good for my career.

However - how do act towards him?

Obviously I will not be winking at him or anything forward, lol, but seriously, do I act like we have never met before and say nothing, or do I be polite and perhaps in private acknowledge it and assure him that no-one knows and it will not affect the production?
Should I wait and see if he says anything?
He may not even remember himself! Though we did spend an evening and night together, so he likely will.

He is now married ( though after a bit of research on dates etc, I suspect he may have been married at the time, though I didn't know it then - or at least going out with her - I may be wrong, I am just guessing)

I am going to a meeting next week, and I will of course be professional, but I just feel a bit weird and nervous about it.

I also am concerned that as soon as he recognises me I may be 'let go' for some random reason.
I don't want him to worry that it will be spoken about to anyone else.

I have no feelings whatsoever for him and have no intention of causing him any pain

Can anyone give me any advice of the best course of action?

Thank You

[laurence2]

some of you women are really really ''blind''

I'm entitled to my opinion, if any of you do not like it


tough

[meglet]

She hasn't done a kiss and tell, she doesn't intend to tell anyone about it, she's worried it could damage her career if it got out, she doesn't want to "cause him any pain" - what the hell has she done wrong? He's the one who was probably in a relationship / married!!

[Pippa68]

I don't see any dilemma.

If you are professional, just carry on & do your job. Act the way you would towards anyone you would work with. After all it isn't going to be for long.

[dot.hawkes]

that is if we are going to believe the story, i don;t, sorry, but that's my problem i guess, not that it bothers me much lol

[lizzydrippin]

Just squint, walk with a limp, wear your hair different (which it probably is now anyway) and talk with a lisp and there's a good chance he won't even recognise you. (unless of course you had all those traits 10yrs ago!)

[who dee knee]

lawrence - oh do get a grip! How in god's name you have got all that from a simple explanation of what happened is beyond me!
Clearly you are having trouble comprehending the english language, either that or you have simply not bothered to read what I have written.
The whole point of this post is the exact opposite from what you claim!
I want nothing off him, I never have, I have no intention of trying to have an affair or something!
I had his phone number - and guess what, I never called it.
He asked me to stay with him the next day and I didn't.
Yes I can see how that looks like a crazed stalker!

You sound like a bitter little man who has clearly struggled to keep a girlfriend - well at least a non-imaginary one anyway.
What a ******!

dot.hawkes - yes, it is your problem, because I have no idea what your problem is.

pippa68 - I am just nervous. I don't it to have any effect on anything regarding my job. I am a professional, and I want things to go well.

Thanks to everyone who actually gave answers as opposed to unwanted judgements

[who dee knee]

lol at lizzydripping!

Good idea. I coul dye my hair and wear my glasses!

Perhaps a prosthetic nose and chin is a step too far though

[Pippa68]

Well...if I were you I would just breathe deeply and get on with the job ~ I am sure things will get better as time progresses anyway.

If he does approach you and tries to talk about what happened why don't you just give him a puzzled look? knowing the male pride my guess would be that he slinks away quietly.

[lizzydrippin]

Hope it all works out okay for you who dee knee, Im sure it will! Ignore these jerks, I for one havent got a clue what they're on about, all the best Lizzy

[ermintrude35]

..in all honesty if it was 10 years ago, and he was married at the time, it is most likely you were not the only 1 night stand he has encountered in all those years, so he probably won't remember you, I wouldn't worry about it....


...hmmm 1 movie, and tv dramas, 1 really popular 1, just starting out around 10 years ago?....it's Ricky Gervaise isn't it?....lol

[laurence2]

who dee.

Me bitter {not}


I'm happily married {17 years} thankyou

I'll take the intelligent lady bit back about you, who the fcuk do you think you are.
you came on here not for advice, but as the woman who would do anything to get to the top, your the bitter one darling as the boss has had you and moved on to better things.

Why the fcuk you need ''advice'' on this is beyond me anyway. big deal that you slept with the boss, go and do it again if you like.

S******

[sense4all]

Nice !!!

[dot.hawkes]

alsom just suppose, though i am still not buying this story, that he didnl;t recognise you, are you saying that you had a one night stand with someone and never told him your name? Surely if he is the boss of this production company he will need to know your name! (ahhhh i nearly took it seriously then, strike that.)

[who dee knee]

Who do I think I am? I know who I am.

Why not nip off back to school you illiterate turd.
You really are quite dumb aren't you?
Where are you getting this stuff from?
Jerry springer episodes as you scratch your arse?

You seem to have got your knickers in a bunch about a simple question. I did not ask for your opinion on me - it really isn't important what you think.
I have not bragged about this, nor do I think it is anything special. It happened 10 years ago and I have barely given it a second thought, until now.

I am really surprised that you feel this is such a shocking and unsual event - happens all the time, believe me, not just in TV but in all types of jobs - people fancy each other and get together - and?

Perhaps when you leave your crummy box room in your mums house and get a proper job you will realise that.

I also said he wasn't very famous them either so hardly a contender for me to get to the top. (what a sad way to think)
Besides, although I didn't, even if I had done it 'to get to the top' - so what? What has it got to with you? Why are you so offended? What do you care?

I don't believe for a moment you are married because only a twisted and jealous little weasel would carry on the way you have to someones question.
If you don't like the question don't answer it, there is no need for you to allow your puerile and blinkered mind to go into overdrive and read all kinds of nonsensical crap into what I have written.
You certainly do not seem to have any great intelligence or insight so why you think you are qualified to attempt to read between the lines? You haven't done a very good job of it, as no-one else agrees with your 'interpretation'.

Are you jealous? Is that it? Jealous that I mix with celebrities on a daily basis? You would probably wet your y-fronts if you met someone of corrie.
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[who dee knee]

I cannot believe the nonsense from some of the people on this site!

Ermintrude - Yes you are probably right, if he is unfaithful with me, he probably was again (although, like I said i am not sure if he was married or seeing anyone, he could have met her later in the year) Hopefully he won't recognise me.

Dot.hawkes - what is it with you? Are you this revolting to everyone on here? I really could give a rats if you are 'buying this' - I do not need approval or to prove anything to some dog with a bone on a website.

Of course I told him my name, but after 10 years, why would he remember it in full? He referred to me by my first name all night, not my surname - so miss marple that rather sh!ts on that theory doesn't it?
Besides, I am being hired by the department head, not him, he is not involved with the hiring personally - which is why I am starting work but have not met spoken to him yet.

[who dee knee]

Can I just ask, aside from these two windbags, does anyone else see this as a ''farfetched'' story?

I am struggling to understand how people think this is a particularly unbelievable situation?

Surely, no-one is so naive to think that people, celebs, bosses, anyone, whoever, don't occasionally have flings that come back to haunt them a bit?

Is everyone here a simpleton who thinks that only supermodels have sex with celebrities and an average girl must be making it up?

[laurence2]

i do not have to ''prove'' or explain my home life to you or anyone else.

i'm not the one making myself look/sound like a tart.

I really do not give a damm what you do in regards to your sex life, i called you a gold digging prostitute because thats what i believe, i think this post of yours is total fabrication by the way {see my earlier post}.

it shows what an ar$e wipe you are by coming on here to get opinions, i would of thought it would of been quite easy for you {smile then open your legs}.


in regards to famous and meeting people darling, you could only dream of the people i know { sportsman} etc, tho my mind would feel with dread if they met the likes of you.

your username is quite appropriate, just change the first two words to '' on your'' ?

S******

[Petal~flower]

Your post sort of reads, that you want him to recognise you, and if he doesn't then you may have a word with him private "just to remind him"

It was 10 years ago. I doubt he would recognise you now anyway.

[Petal~flower]

Your post sort of reads, that you want him to recognise you, and if he doesn't then you may have a word with him in private "just to remind him"

It was 10 years ago. I doubt he would recognise you now anyway.

[who dee knee]

It's would 'have' and 'though' - still having trouble with words I see, you illiterate tool.

A one night stand 10 years ago makes me a tart?
Give my regards to the 1950s!

Like I said, no-one else seems to agree with you Laurence, your bitterness and your lack of intellect and level one reading ability make it crystal clear that there is no point in talking to you.

Perhaps lay of the drugs a bit - perhaps you will find a real live woman and learn to read properly.
Oh, and by the way, being able to read a word is very different from actually understanding what is said.