Dilemma = help!

[who dee knee]

About 10 years ago, I had a one night stand with a celebrity. I have not seen him since.

I am now going to work on a production with him - he is the boss of the company.

If this were a normal job, I would just turn it down, but it is only for a few months, and he is pretty famous so I am keen to do this as he has industry weight and obviously anything he is connected with will probably do well - so it is good for my career.

However - how do act towards him?

Obviously I will not be winking at him or anything forward, lol, but seriously, do I act like we have never met before and say nothing, or do I be polite and perhaps in private acknowledge it and assure him that no-one knows and it will not affect the production?
Should I wait and see if he says anything?
He may not even remember himself! Though we did spend an evening and night together, so he likely will.

He is now married ( though after a bit of research on dates etc, I suspect he may have been married at the time, though I didn't know it then - or at least going out with her - I may be wrong, I am just guessing)

I am going to a meeting next week, and I will of course be professional, but I just feel a bit weird and nervous about it.

I also am concerned that as soon as he recognises me I may be 'let go' for some random reason.
I don't want him to worry that it will be spoken about to anyone else.

I have no feelings whatsoever for him and have no intention of causing him any pain

Can anyone give me any advice of the best course of action?

Thank You

[~Wingnut~]

I would say nothing and remain professional. If he recognises you, which is probably doubtful after such a long time and it was only one night really, then just say you have one of those faces that seem familiar to most people and that you have never met him before.

Good luck with the job and I suppose your not going to tell us who this celeb is are you? Thought not! Teach me to be nosey! ;o)

[dot.hawkes]

Will there be any lifts in the building where the meeting is?

[legend758duo]

WAS IT ken dodd BY ANY CHANCE !!!!!????

[dot.hawkes]

don;t forget to take your camera with you too

[mrs_overall]

Can't we have just a teensy weensy clue? Something subtle will do - such as the words "broom cupboard in a sushi bar".

[laurence2]

So this is a form of prostitution then?

[sense4all]

I am with wingnut on this one, if he persists (not thinking) say
"I went out with a bloke who said he was your cousin but I never believed him. "

[laurence2]

i reckon you had a one night stand with bertie bullsh!te.

This thread is total bull, and if remotely true, he should ''let you go''

from the 20th floor if possible


Sleeping your way to the top is no different to being a prostitute

[who dee knee]

Thank you for your replies.

Wingnut - Thank you. We did sit in the hotel bar all evening chatting - I was a guest of a friend who was working with him, so it was just the production staff there, so I think there's a possibility that he might remember me, it wasn't like a drunken meeting in a nightclub, I would say we only had a drink at about 6pm.
Also if he was married it may have stuck in his mind more.

I actually hope he doesn't remember me! Whilst it would be nice if he did remember me (purely from a sort of ego angle) I would be so much more comfortable working with him if I thought he had no idea.

Although I would spend the entire time wondering if he did and just hadn't said anything.
We will also be working in the city where I met him.

Dot.hawkes - don't know about the lift, (don't fancy getting stuck in it with him, lol...although...no, definitely not!)
but I will have my camera with me

Lol at Legend758Duo - no, no-one so illustrious!

Lawrence2 - well I didn't pay him, so no.

I cannot give a name - imagine if his wife googled him and saw this thread! As far as I know he has been in a one big hollywood film, but mostly he does tv dramas, has just done one that was quite popular.

[Carakeel]

I tend to agree with Laurence to some degree, although he is being a bit harsh. I can't see that sleeping your way to the top is a good thing. But maybe you were just caught up in the moment at the time and wouldn't do something like that today? I would just behave as though nothing ever happened between you, be friendly and professional as usual. If he does bring the subject up, just say that you have grown up since then or that you had no intention of mentioning it yourself as it wasn't something you were in a habit of doing. Either way, if the subject does come up, you need to make sure he doesn't feel it will have even the slightest influence on your working together. If he is indeed married, for heavens sake be the better person and stay well away from him.
Good luck.

[dot.hawkes]

now you see this nis where the search the site box really comes into it's own,, If you join the site and wait two weeks your id turns grey, as opposed to the green it will be for those first two weeks, however, if someone registers but does not post until they are grey, it just seems, well, kind of odd.

[who dee knee]

lawrence2 - well that was uncalled for.

I fail to see the point of posting all this if it wasn't true

Given that I did not contact him or ask him for anything I can hardly be said to be 'sleeping my way to the top', can I?

We had a lovely evening, end of.

Your opinion is not only hopelessly crap it is not wanted - so sod off.

[who dee knee]

carakeel - oh I have no intention of going anywhere near him. It was a one off thing - young and having fun, never thought I would be working with him so never really thought about it.
It certainly wasn't a move to 'get to the top' - he is a handsome charming man and I fancied him - that's all!
He also wasn't especially famous at the time.

I just want to know how to handle the situation - ignore or acknowlegde then forget?

We are adults and should be able to be in the same room without it being weird.

dot.hawkes - I have asked one question before. I joined the site just to ask a question about legal matters, and I asked it on the day I joined.

[who dee knee]

lawrence2 - yes it's almost unheard of for a celebrity to sleep with someone isn't it!

What is going on here?

Can I just get some genuine advice please?

[~Wingnut~]

I reckon you'll be ok who dee knee, like I said if he says he recognises you just laugh it off and say he must be mistaken and change the subject.

Prehaps the way to look at it is you know you are going there to work alongisde him and you know what went on between the 2 of you. He hasn't the faintest idea that a one night stand he had 10 years ago is going to be working alongside him so that is why I think he will probably not remember or recognise you. If he does then basically there isn't much you can do other than deny it but I doubt he would confront and ask you anyway just incase he is wrong. I hope you get what I mean above lol
Try to push it out of your mind and remain professional at all times :o)


So not even a few initials then? ..... damn my curiosity!

[laurence2]

who dee knee.

I suggest you read your question again & again, then tell me what you come across as.


You give the ''strong'' impression that if he clicked his fingers, your be at his feet like a shot, i'm sure your an intelligent lady, but i think you know onlt too well what your trying to suggest here,

You say it could only be good for your career due to him being the boss etc etc, can you see where i'm coming from then ie you slept with him once so.................?


You also say that you could have a word in private ie your secret is safe with me................?

see where i'm coming from?


Your coming across as tarty or a gold digger, apologies if this has upset you, but i'm entitled to my opinion be it an opinion you do not like, of course the other side of the coin is that he might ''use'' you ie wham bam thankyou mam, then get rid of you, its best if you leave the past in the past, act professional and good luck with your career.

Ps, who dee knee, unless you get a wide range of opinions, you will not know what is the best way to deal with this, this is answerbank, and you ''WILL'' come across alot more harsher people on here than me, i'm far from no angel, i do not beat about the bush with my answers, i tell it as i read it,

apologies once again if i have offended you

[baremission]

lawrence: theanswerbank is here for people to seek advice(like who dee knee) is doing not dish out critiscm(like you are)

and dont give us any of your "its my opinion" cr*p.

[laurence2]

baremission.

who asked for your opinion, never even heard of you, so shut up and go away.

Do you know ''the boss'' personally as well ?

[sense4all]

Que? lol
Never saw any of that at all!!!

[meglet]

Laurence. You judge others on their questions and others will judge you on your answers. Doesn't matter if you've heard of the person commenting on your answer or not.

I, for one, don't think that who dee knee sounds tarty or of a gold digger.