My son is nearly 14..........

[someguy0000]

my son is nearly 14 years old, i am a single parent and have been for 14 years on and off.
my question is..........how do i know if my son is 'getting to that age' you know ejaculating and everything.
We are very close we talk about all sorts of things,but im finding this one difficult to talk about.Should i talk about it to him,(we do in jest) or will i know automatically.
Its difficult for him because there is no male around apart from my father who is very ill and to be quite honest no body can really talk to him because he is old and out of touch.
im worried that im not forfilling my roll as a parent,but i do have to be mum and dad.
Any answers would be appreciated.........

[B00]

Why do you need to bring up the subject anyway? I imagine he'd be mortified if you did!

I'm sure if he's any worries or concerns he'd come to you. By the sounds of it, you're an open person with him, so he should know that if he's worried he can come to you.

I'm begging you, don't bring it up with him out the blue so to speak, he'll die a thousand deaths of embarrassment!

[B00]

forgot your initial question....lol

At 14, I imagine he's been experiencing sexual feelings (hopefully on his own!) for quite a while now.

[squarebear]

Yes he would be mortified as would any teenage boy talking about it with his mum. If he is 14 then it's pretty certain that he's doing it already.

If you must find out then you could examine his pyjamas or bed covers for stains but I don't see why you would want to.

[Doc Spock]

In a word NO NO NO.

I remember being a 14 year old boy. Nothing changes.

Just give him a sense of good values. Honesty, integrity, politeness. Respect. Nothing wrong with a bit of pride either, never mind 7 sins.

[Doc Spock]

All part of growing up perfectly natural, how is my one hand typing BTW.

[4GS]

he's going to experience wet dreams soon (sorry to make you cringe) so perhaps that might give you the opportunity to approach the subject in jest

[Octavius]

At 14 years old he probably is. Generally there is no need for you to talk or discuss puberty with your son unless he really wants and needs to talk about it and approaches you. Chances are he won�t. And even if there was a father figure he probably wouldn�t want to discuss any of it with them either. It is not like a daughter discussing periods with her mum � can you imagine a daughter discussing orgasms with her father??!

Let things be, and providing your son is contented and happy be assured that if there was a particular issue, that he has friends to chat to, or as a very last resort, might confide in you.

[Shadow Man]

At 14 I imagine most lads are whacking one off to Razzle or Escort. The internet may be a new substitute but one can not position themselves in to climatic pleasure as one can with a Razzle under the bed sheets.

In total agreement that you do not need to talk to him about it. Different kettle of fish if he had a bird on the go. My father discreetly placed some French Letters in my rucksack when I went off camping at 16 in France. That is, to the best of my knowledge, my only parental input in my entire sex life education.

Leave him to it and if he is anything like me, DO NOT unroll his dirty socks on wash day.

[someguy0000]

thanks people........lol
I would nt bring it up and embarress him like that although our relationship is one of complete openess.
Boo , i like to know whats going on with my boy although i know what you mean!!
and doc your typing is absolutely brill!
hes down stairs at mo and your right he would be absolutely mortified if he knew what i was talking about...........i dont know......i think i getting worried because he is growing up and does nt need me so much any more..........i feel redundant

[B00]

Don't worry someguy, they are never completely off your hands- my eldest is 19 and has left home, however she's still at my house on a regular basis for a visit, which roughly translates to "on the borrow" for something, usually money.

[someguy0000]

I have already bought him some dodgy mags........which didnt go down to well in the village (every one now thinks im a lesbian!!)
octavius...........my nightmares will start again now lol but thanks for the info
the thing is i was just assuming he already had, he is a very big lad 5'11 at mo very hairy......(sorry to be graphic) and i was wondering when does it all start ,what time??
when should i prepare for all this or am i getting carried away with myself...........sorry people

[someguy0000]

Thanks boo :)

[B00]

you're probably several years too late someguy- sorry..
I'm willing to bet that he's been doing it for quite a while, he's just obviously very good at hiding the evidence. Which tells me he'd be even more mortified if you mentioned it first.

[4GS]

Try the sheet test
if they stand up all by themself, ask him to explain.

Seriously, take the advice of Octavius and leave alone, he'll be as embarassed as you, so let him bring up the subject only if he wants to.

[someguy0000]

i know 4gs what your saying, i just can remember what it was like for me, i was horrified,didnt know what was going on...........thought i was bleeding to death (sorry again)
i know its different these days, and every ones right i should and will leave it up to him to approach me, if ever he will .
Its just so personal and id like to help him through any thing.Im not one to get embarresed about things like this

[Octavius]

Just one of those things you are going to have to leave for him to work out really, you won�t be able to interfere or control that part of his life! He might have started when he was 11. It�s a bit like girls and periods, you never know when it is going to start and everyone is different.

A man and his willy is a very intimate relationship � one that a woman could never really understand! From a very young age a man grows up with the dangly bits hanging there, stuck on the outside, there is no hiding them, they bulge out, we have to hold them to wee, readjust them when they are uncomfortable, and conceal them when they are becoming obviously excited! It can all be very embarrassing, without chatting it over with mum.

As you have said yourself, its personal. He can learn a lot more from his mates, from books and magazines and the girls behind the bike sheds than he would ever want to discuss with you. So, just let him get on with it.

[China Doll]

Did anyone else read Octavius's last answer with the One Man and His Dog (replaced with willy obviously) opening credits?

Or shall I get my coat?

[Octavius]

Mine's called Rover. And it bites.

You mean like that? Or should I get my coat too?

[China Doll]

I'm definitely getting my coat now.

My initial retort to your answer... Does it spit or have any other form of dribbling problem?

Sorry.

Puts coat on to leave