Hiding behind aliases

[aka pixi]

Why do people feel the need to make aliases to slag someone off? I have never understood it at all. I dont know why anyone who has something to say to someone wouldnt do it in their own name. If I were wanting to say something to someone I would do it in my own name so the person I was saying it to knew for a fact it was me saying it and didnt have to sit there playing some silly guessing game as to whether it actually me or not.

Hope that made sense.

[B00]

hiya Pix- how's you?

I don't get it either, it does indeed show a level of cowardliness on their part. Today's example is someone who's reinvented themselves as "me innit" to have a go at Dotty in one of the threads. What makes it equally pathetic is that Dotty's not here to defend herself.

[China Doll]

I grant you that it's silly.

But it's just as silly to get wound up by it or get involved in any kind of guessing game.

I tend to go on the line of thought that if you're getting emotional about what a faceless entity has said to you/about you then that's usually the time to log off for a bit.

[legend758duo]

wheres this me innit thread ?

i saw the john nonsense

avoided it
now its too long to bother with .

[aka pixi]

hi boo, im fine ta hows you?

Yeah thats exactly what I was referring to, I know I pointed out that naming and shaming was wrong earlier but when its aliases I cant see as it matters.

[B00]

Well you're obviously in the minority then CD. I'm sorry but I disagree with you- no matter how adult we try to be when someone is clearly out to you, your natural reaction is to defend yourself, not walk away.

[China Doll]

That's ok, I'm all for a bit of disagreement, you know me! ;0)

I saw the alias and I've reported the answer. But I think drawing attention to things like that doesn't help.

I've had the bogey man be rude to me on a thread once and the smeg headed one was vaguely rude to me yesterday... I have to say that short of telling bogey that the finger up the nose was a good look I did/do walk away.

I just don't see the point in playing along with the game. Do you know what I mean?

That John down there was funny.... well was to me cause I had the cold fusion question I'd asked the other day... but generally, I don't know. Too much nastiness on here lately and I think paying attention to it perpetuates it. Does that make sense?

[aka pixi]

yeah I get what you are saying china and to be honest I have very rarely been involved in any online crap until recently. I know walking away may be the easiest thing but when someone gets on your tits so much it makes your nipples hurt then I would rather stay and get on theirs too. Childish? maybe.

Legend I think its in the lol thread, not positive about that though

[Octavius]

No, I agree with CD.

No amount of defending or tit for tat on Answerbank will allay or support false accusations or abuse. I am of the walk away type as nothing or no-one on here will be allowed to have that much effect on my life.

Often you find if you ignore it, a couple of hours later it is at the bottom of the pile and forgotten about anyway. People who indulge in trying to communicate with the cowardly dolts are just lining themselves up for a greater fall, usually one that make them feel worse.

Generally I don't 'slag people off' but if it comes to the point of (as I put it) making someone right, then I will do it in the only Answerbank username I have.

[B00]

sorta yeah- but i happen to think that created an alias to get at someone is pure nastiness. And im not sure if it says more about me than you, but I'd have to defend myself if someone did that to me.

[aka pixi]

ah I can honestly say I havent been nasty though,(dont think I have anyway) I have only defended myself.

[China Doll]

Oh it's definitely nasty Boobies, don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to defend it.

But I honestly believe that if you respond it just carries it on.

And as Ocatavius says, they have no bearing on your every day life whatsoever. Just ignore the little monkeys. Would you pay any attention to the kids on street corners that shout at names as you walk past?

It's the same sort of mentality I think.

[B00]

I'm obviously more argumentative then, cause I'd fight my corner. But LMAO @ Pix's nipples hurt comment!

[aka pixi]

oops i wasnt answering you there boo with the nastiness comment, I was on about something china said in her post, gawd ya dont half type fast on here y'all

[Louisa 69]

Afternoon all.
It confuses me as to who is who. But i agree it's cowardly it seems that some folk like to stir up trouble. I agree Boo these past few days i've noticed that there has been a lot of bad feeling towards Dot. What's all that about ?

[aka pixi]

I dunno what its all about louisa but maybe just maybe if the person had the guts (or any other user doing the same thing had the guts) to post in their real name then the person it is aimed at would maybe have an idea, unless of course the person doing the aliases and nasty comments are just out to wind someone up for no good reason.

[funnygirl]

They are just cowards and hiding behind their fancy made up names, they feel big!

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i agree also.
Its like all those people who hide behind their concience when it comes to speaking their mind on certain topics.
They are scared of saying something in case they get labelled a racist. They hide in the shadows and only appear to criticise people.
like someone above says so though, you shouldnt let it worry you. Its part of this AB thing...

[Octavius]

But Boobies, the point of fighting your corner is ok if you are debating a principle. If someone has some personal inherent nastiness that they wish to espouse just out of pure malice, then they will never see reasoning in you arguing about it, only you are adding more fuel to their fire.

They won�t back down as they are a faceless, gormless, cowardly imbecile and can just increase the ire with more drivel. There is no argument, or corner fighting � it is more like shadow boxing but occasionally the right hook goes around far enough you end up hitting yourself (hopefully not on the nipples though, that'd get on your tits)

[natalie_1982]

I'm with Louise on this one, I get confused as to who is who. I never really knowing who is playfully mocking and who is being downright nasty, sometimes it's just sarcasm that I think is spiteful but the other person takes it n jest because they're friends with the other person. I completely don't get this whole alias thing, and it annoys the hell outta me because, espcially during the evening, I never hae a clue who anyone is and feel I can't join in or answer anything or I will get crap too!

I do find it hard to just "virtually" walk away lol, as it makes myine hurt too pix (although at 14 weeks preggers that might be down to something else lol). Sometimes though i just can't be arsed, it's unfounded comments I find hard to walk away from, being nasty with no apparent reason.

[aka pixi]

Octavius that is so true

LOL at nat, bless your heart.