It's so unfair that at age 27 I still feel sick with worry about girls I like.

[Supernick]

I feel like I'm about 17 again, and this shouldn't be happening to me, but I think I'm getting quite obsessed (in a NON CREEPY way) with a girl at work. I really like her, and I'm convinced she's perfect for me. I've been spending a fair bit of time together, and we go out to lunch most days, just the two of us. I can't tell if she's interested though, and it's driving me nuts. How on earth am I
A. Going to find out she's interested
B. Actually ask her out. This is someone I work with so it's going to have to be during the day.

[China Doll]

Oh dear Nick... Think the tough love is coming in now.

[helliebobs]

jon i'm sorry but I don't think supernick's any less of a man for not being able to find the courage to ask out a girl he likes, how harsh are you?? :)

[Reverandfunk]

Im not being harsh Im just saying that the longer he waits the harder it gets and in the meantime in swoops a vulture

[jon1968]

I�m not harsh at all Hellie, why all the dithering, what signal is he waiting for? You�ve said yourself she�s probably waiting for him to ask but he won�t?! ;-)

[cheries]

Take your own advice Rev.

[helliebobs]

I didn't say that jon! I agree, nick should just do it but it's easy for everyone to say that isn't it?

[jon1968]

Easy to say and equally easy to do Hellie!

[Reverandfunk]

I think you know that only one thing is going to be sweeping down on you Cheries lol

[helliebobs]

jon it isn't easy for everyone believe me :)

[WoWo]

"Im not being harsh Im just saying that the longer he waits the harder it gets and in the meantime in swoops a vulture"

That happened to me, really liked this girl at work got positive vibes from her and we used to see each other socially a bit in a group of friends, however I could never pluck up the courage to ask her out. Then when I had decided to do it before I could get it out she told me she had just started going out with one of my mates. Talking to her later she said that she was always waiting for me to ask her out but as I didn't she didn't think I liked her like that.

I really do understand how very difficult it is but it will not get any easier the longer you leave it.

While I understand you wanting to see what happens it seems to me (only going on what little you said about the content of your email) you didn't make it 100% clear you wanted a date. She could very well be sitting there not wanting to make a fool of herself but desperately wanting you to make another move.

I made a decision when I was about 24 that I would never again sit around thinking about what might have been, from then on I always made sure I knew where I stood with the ladies. If somebody agreed to call and didn't I just called them and asked them straight out why they didn't call if they said they were not interested I simply left it at that, but I knew for definate they were not waiting around for me to call.

[weeal]

I was once handed a 'note' by a guy in a shop who used to serve me often, telling me he liked me, his name, mobile number etc, and I thought it was really quite nice. It didnt really seem cowardly or anything.
I doesnt matter if its verbal or written some times.

Go do it !

[Reverandfunk]

Spot on Wowo

You dont want to live your life thinking "what if"

I dont have a life of regrets and I can say "i did that" as opposed to "i wish i had"

[cheries]

What about "I wish I'd never done that" Rev?

[Reverandfunk]

I wish I'd never got married

had a credit card

lived with an alkie

made trips to amsterdam

etc ewtc blah blah l;ol

[cheries]

No, I mean what if you did something that was an off the cuff decision at the time but ended up being quite serious?
Would you still believe in what you just said?

[Reverandfunk]

Off the cuff? Planned with military precision more like lol

[cheries]

fair point well made x

[bigmamma]

Phew , just sat and read through this thread on the edge of my seat . Has anyone got the film rights to it yet ? Who would play Supernick and who La Femme.? I will have to keep popping in here for the next installment . I hope you are going to take the bull by the horns soon Supernick love. :-)

[China Doll]

As some who has been on the receiving end of jon1968's tough love in the past, (not like that), I can only grudgingly agree that he is right.

Work on his tact and diplomacy is underway however.

[Supernick]

For anyone that is interested, she said no.

I took John's advice. Of course tough love is sometimes best. It works for me on the football field, and it worked to motivate me to do something.

But she did say no.

I'm gutted to say the least. Not really sure what the bus driver knew to make of a man in tears but bless him he gave me a knowing nod.

It'd right to tell someone, but blind hope feels better than being crushed. It's like getting an injection. Take the pain and move on, although I have a feeling this will take a few weeks..