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My wife of 20 years has M/S, bad. I work 40 hours a week and look after all the house chores, the kids and her. The M/S has changed her both mentally and phisically and although i could and would never leave her, i no longer love her. "Love" turned to "careing for" a few years back. Recently i have had to change job and now work away during mon- thurs and pay someone to help her. Her family help too. I pick up all the chores at the weekend. I have meet a lady who i like and she likes me. She knows about my situation but would like to take things futher. She knows i would never walk away from my wife leaving my daughter as her carer. I know its not fair on my wife, or the lady in question really, but dont i deserve some fun for a little while? Before i become a full time carer for the rest of my life.
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i think if it were me i would try to keep things seperate and be there for your wife when you are home but have a life of your own
if you are the same age group as your wife you are young man. you have needs and ambitions and need to be cared for too
if you dont take this home, it shouldnt affect the family - keep the two issues apart
i think if it were me i would try to keep things seperate and be there for your wife when you are home but have a life of your own
if you are the same age group as your wife you are young man. you have needs and ambitions and need to be cared for too
if you dont take this home, it shouldnt affect the family - keep the two issues apart
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Hi oggy, very sad when this happens,of course you need a life as well,you say you no longer love her, is this really true? only you can decide what will happen in the future, your wife needs you now, you also have your own needs sexually and emotionally,
would an affair solve your problems? I don't think it would, you would probably feel really guilty afterwards you have been with your wife a long time, as you say you won't walk out on her so all it seems to me is you are asking if it is ok to have this affair, I would say No it's not the way to go, you can sort yourself out if you need to.
Does your wife have good times as well as bad days? maybe a holiday in the sunshine would do you both good, you have a lot to think about, cos if you had made your mind up you would not be on here asking advice, hope things become clear for you soon, Take care, Ray
would an affair solve your problems? I don't think it would, you would probably feel really guilty afterwards you have been with your wife a long time, as you say you won't walk out on her so all it seems to me is you are asking if it is ok to have this affair, I would say No it's not the way to go, you can sort yourself out if you need to.
Does your wife have good times as well as bad days? maybe a holiday in the sunshine would do you both good, you have a lot to think about, cos if you had made your mind up you would not be on here asking advice, hope things become clear for you soon, Take care, Ray
Oggy - I guess deep down you know which option you will take but I have a question for you.
Before this other lady came into your life were you searching for 'a little fun in your life'?
I doubt very much whether this will turn out to be 'fun for a little while' before you become a full time carer for the rest of your life but I guess thats what your dilemma is.
Good Luck whatever you choose
Before this other lady came into your life were you searching for 'a little fun in your life'?
I doubt very much whether this will turn out to be 'fun for a little while' before you become a full time carer for the rest of your life but I guess thats what your dilemma is.
Good Luck whatever you choose
My friend has MS and in was a slow illness then last summer it progressed rapidly , she can't drive , go to work , and is now in a wheelchair , she's not old , it was a blow for the whole family ,as it is a major operation for her to go anywhere . Her husband is great as he works and still has to do the household bits . People do not understand what a dreadful illness it is . oggy777 can only make up his own mind , and live with his conscience a to what he wants to do .
Oggy, if the roles of you and your wife were reversed, would it be ok with you for your wife to have an affair or be unfaithful to you in any way? Ask yourself this question, see what your conscience says.
It's my understanding also from what you've said that you deserve a bit of fun for a while before you become a full time carer. When you've cheated once you will want to go a bit further the nest time, before you know it you will become so involved, it will be difficult to 'get away' from that situation. You must think carefully on theses matters ... the long term effect it will have on you mentally and physically, and on your family before you make 'that' choice.
My very best wishes to you and your family.
It's my understanding also from what you've said that you deserve a bit of fun for a while before you become a full time carer. When you've cheated once you will want to go a bit further the nest time, before you know it you will become so involved, it will be difficult to 'get away' from that situation. You must think carefully on theses matters ... the long term effect it will have on you mentally and physically, and on your family before you make 'that' choice.
My very best wishes to you and your family.