am i an useless girlfriend?

[richee]

im in one year relationship and living with my boyfriend now. my boyfriend always flirt with girls by texts and emails, we had argue about it, but he said he is doing it all the time and he wont do anything pysically. he is watching porn all the time, which i understand most men do this. but he is keeping the porn video of himself and his ex girlfriend, and plans to show it to people at work. he also posted their porn pictures on website. he asked me before he did that, i said up to you, then he really did it. today when i open our laptop, found lots old sex pictures from him and his ex, i cant control myself to get upset. i deleted them from the pc now.
does that mean he is not happy with me or our sex life not as excited as he expected? he always says he loving me, but is that really important for a man to keep the sex video with his ex. im sure there is nothing left between him and his ex, however, it is still upseting me. how would you react to this situation if happens to u?

[R1Geezer]

Ok, Wisdom of the Geezer here: It's ok being a bloke but you should show your GF some respect.Sorry love he treats you like a doormat, you have to get rid, it's a one sided relationship I'm afraid and he knows you love him but he don't love you. Sorry It's painful but he has to go.

[muppeteer]

he does these things because you let him.
if he is already doing it when he knows you dont like it he is not going to stop.
if you try to dump him he will say sorry & that he will change because there are not many women who will put up with that cr4p so he wont want to lose you. if you agree to try again, as soon as he thinks he can get away with it he will do it again as he will know you are a soft touch & he can easily manipulate you.
have some self repect & walk away- you cant expect him to respect you if you are not doing so for yourself
(i'm sorry if it sounds harsh, but you sound like you need a mental slap...WAKE UP!)

[unhappychick]

If I were you, ide put on a front, be more full of yourself and get my own back, I mean get yourself some porn videos and mags with men in, hide them somewhere he will find em if you get what I mean, ide invest in a vibrator also....make him feel as inadequate as he is you....after youv made him feel like crap, dump him, you deserve someone that treats you with respect cos this fool certainly dont!

[Ice.Maiden]

He's a jerk! I wonder if he had his ex's permission to put the porn pics out on the internet? Get rid of him as soon as, hun. He's a waster.

[richee]

his ex is shameless, he put those pics on facebook, she even put comments on them. my mates saw those pics and asking me whats going on. i feel ashamed.
when he back home, still not deleted them yet and put more his own coments on those pics. how can a man be so cruel.

[tigerlily11]

It's strange the things we do and put up with for love, but as pointed out in so many answers you have had, and as hard as it is to exept it's time to ditch this loser.
He is the useless one here not you. You have every right to expect respect from this relationship and your not getting it.
Dispite him there are lots of guys out there who would give there back teeth for a girl like you.
Your a great person who has stumbled across the dross of mankind. It happens but you can put an end to it and give this moron the boot and get out there and live your life.
Good luck and don't let this pr*ck put you off.
PS I would react by going to his ex and telling her he's putting dirty pics of her on the net and see what she thinks. Then the both of you could get together and take a knife to his pride and joy and stop some other poor girl from suffering the same fate.

[Octavius]

I won�t even pretend to understand nor question why you are still with this man. The general argument �its complicated� doesn�t cut the mustard. The man you have described is a moron.

If you are content to continue living this life in this relationship with a moron and wish to be treated like a second class submissive moron, then why seek advice?

If not then do something about it, its quite simple really.

[richee]

tigerlil, his ex gf is shamless p!tch, she enjoyed and even put her own comments on it and ask is her ass sexy.

[ChuckFickens]

Think pretty much everything has been covered by others so all I'll add is no your not a useless girlfriend, but it sounds like you do have a useless boyfriend.

get rid and find someone that treats you with respect

[Octavius]

I didn�t really think this was about the lack of morals demonstrated by an ex-girlfriend. No doubt she will continue to be like this, so long as she gets the attention she is craving. Yes, we can all say that we know someone like this, or that her behaviour is self-degrading, but why are you even bothering to give her attention, or vying for our confirmation on our own impression of her?

I thought it was about you being a doormat to your boyfriend�s unhealthy obsession towards distractions away from you and outside of your relationship. Constantly telling him what a tramp his ex is, will no doubt keep the festering wondering eyes peeled to see what she might deliver next.

Which is it?

[beso]

A difficult as it may seem to leave now it is only going to get worse. This is your life you are talking about. Your boyfriend is a complete looser. He will no doubt have worked on grinding your self esteem into the ground.

No doubt he has told you that all guys watch porn. Well that simply isn't true. He doesn't love you. He doesn't even know what love is.

Go and find a copy of Madonna's "Power of Goodbye". It is quite hypnotic and reinforces the power in moving on with life. Your bf is taking you totally for granted and it is time you took control.

[Velvetee]

Your "boyfriend" is an idiot and I'm sorry, but if you continue this relationship, with this moron, then you can only be described as one too.

From reading your post, I very much doubt you will heed any advice given here and you will continue this sad relationship. This guy, sound juvenille and really should be living with his mum, not a girlfriend.